I dont think its about making you feel bad, I think its about making you (or whomever) aware.
Many of us are pretty blunt about our messages, which can often seem like criticism or that we're attacking/being harsh. Its usally only meant to be direct.
If we're not having fun, then why are we doing it?
These are DISCUSSION boards, not mutual admiration boards. Discussion only occurs when we are willing to hear what others are thinking, regardless of whether it is alignment to our own thoughts.