thoughts on "ignore", anonymity and reputational systems- Page 6

[GavestonPS]

Posted: 8/23/13 at 10:04pm

I think anonymity is important here since there are many posters who are, to one degree or another, in the industry. They might not feel free to post here if they were not anonymous, particularly given the nature of the business and the public/press scrutiny it attracts.

I agree with artscallion on this. I am by no means famous or wildly successful, but quite a bit of my work is available on line and can be found via google, if you know my name (as a few posters here do).

I'll grit my teeth and endure attacks on my posts; I don't think I should have to subject my creative work to the same aggression.

If I ever have occasion to post here about my dramatic work, I will most certainly identify myself as the writer. That only seems fair.

[FindingNamo]

Posted: 8/23/13 at 10:10pm

Well, okay, ART, here's some feedback: this thread you started belongs on the off-topic board. I'm surprised it's still here, but obviously, the staff is allowing LOTS of discussion to happen all over the place about this issue. All of it -- whether you know it or not -- spurred on by exactly one trolling poster.

You say this board is about the love of theater. Well, to a degree. It's also about the love of a lot of things, just look at all the topic boards here now.

It seems a lot of us here have a difficult time worrying about the "safety" of theater lovers to come here and share that love. You have nothing to worry about. Theater lovers who do what you do, stay on the main theater board, and discuss theater are perfectly "safe." However, a person can't troll the off-topic board for the thrill of it and then disingenuously whine that "we all love theatre" and "can't we all get along"? Not when you're trolling us we can't.

Stay on the main board, talk about your theatrical passion, DON'T TROLL, and you'll be just fine. Last,, and this tip is for you specifically, if someone responds negatively to you, resist crying "bully."

Updated On: 8/23/13 at 10:10 PM

[ARTc3]

Posted: 8/23/13 at 10:16pm

^ I will consider your advice. Thank you.

[PTOPhan]

Posted: 8/23/13 at 10:34pm

Wow! This stuff can be emotional.

I like the anonymous posting on other boards because I've had such vicious responses to innocuous posts. Example: I commented on an article, I think on Yahoo dot com about how Mila Kunis was a Jewish immigrant from, I think, Ukraine. I said something like, "I didn't know she was Jewish, but I'm proud to claim her." Some anti-Semite came back and answered, "are you also proud to claim So-and-so, who was architect of a mass famine in the USSR?" When I used to use my initials and last name, I'd have been terrified to receive anti-Semitic rants, because I'm easy to find. However, as "LawTrekker," I'm reasonably safe.

[FindingNamo]

Posted: 8/23/13 at 10:47pm

*Jewish* immigrants from the Ukraine ARE cool,

[this is an example of a trolling post. Luckily, I am testing out the reinstated block function so it's smooth sailing for me!]

[PalJoey]

Posted: 8/23/13 at 10:56pm

ArtC3--you type too many words.

You should type fewer.

[FindingNamo]

Posted: 8/23/13 at 10:58pm

I fear getting that message from PJ.

[ARTc3]

Posted: 8/23/13 at 11:02pm

"I fear getting that message from PJ."

I don't. I think PalJoey should exercise his ability to "Ignore" me when the feature returns.

I am fine with my writing style.

[chewy5000]

Posted: 8/23/13 at 11:16pm

Was one thread not enough for this popularity contest?

[FindingNamo]

Posted: 8/23/13 at 11:18pm

Yes.

[TheatreDiva90016]

Posted: 8/24/13 at 3:17am

"Gee, that almost sounds like a threat, Diva. "

Almost only counts in horse shoes and hand grenades. If I had threatened you, I would have received a warning from the mods. I have received no such warning. So, again, you keep saying something that just isn't true.


"I begged you, over a 24 hour period, to delete the names you were so "outraged" that I had posted. I literally said I didn't care if you made me "look like the biggest a$$hole on the planet - but please remove their names". For their sakes. You refused. To spite me. "

Yes, because you kept using my name as if you had the upper hand. When you specifically use my first and last name, and then you can't be bothered to tell me who you are, it's puts you at an unfair advantage. So, that's why I did it to spite you

"I lowered myself to begging and pleading with you to try to correct my wrong, and when that didn't work, the only "weapon" I had in my arsenal was letting you know I would give that life coach your name if the subject came up. The life coach is an acquaintance of mine and a former performer who reads these boards. If the subject came up, I would first admit my culpability, ask forgiveness - and then tell that person (and that person alone) that [Diva's real name] was the one refused to delete their name - but only IF that person asked me about it."

Yes, you begged and pleaded because what you wrote was vile. Of course you wanted it erased from the boards. If you had treated me a little more kindly, I probably would have removed the post. But you kept lording over me that you knew who I was but you weren't going to reciprocate.

"Anyone who wishes to see Diva's threats to me can private message me for them - unedited, in a screen shot. I will not post them here. "

Again, they weren't threats, or at least the mods don't consider them such. Just you.

"The thread was about two life coaches who committed double suicide. I observed that most life coaches seemed to have issues, and mentioned, thoughtlessly, two life coaches that I knew (and are fairly well known in this community) whose personal lives were train wrecks. While this was true and fairly common knowledge, it was nevertheless indiscrete for me to say. It was a thoughtless mistake - and I owned up to it and corrected it the moment Diva pointed it out, within an hour of posting it. There was no malice involved. Just stupidity. I posted before I thought it through. Too many of our regulars here did see that thread and my exchange with Diva before the thread was deleted. They know I didn't do anything "vile" or "very rude."

Really?! Then why did you BEG me to remove your comment? BECAUSE IT WAS VILE. When I would 't remove the comment, you then whined to the mods that I was threatening you and begged them to delete my post.

" Having the ability to remove the names and protect their reputations, but actively choosing not to because making me look bad was more important to you. "

No, you made yourself look bad by posting it in the first place. And then you tried to make me feel guilty, which wasn't going to work, and that pissed you off.

Face it, you got mad because I didn't delete your rude comments. That's the bottom line.

"Back off. Leave me alone. Stop the personal attacks and nasty comments - or keep them up if you can't help yourself. Each unprovoked attack only makes you appear that much more unstable."

I only comment when you backhandedly bring up the subject to garner sympathy. Stop whining that you are being "threatened" because you aren't.

And none of this would have happened had YOU NOT POSTED THE NASTY COMMENTS.

You cant seem to take responsibility for your own actions.