Biphobia in the gay community.Has anyone expierenced it?- Page 3

[SueleenGay]

Posted: 9/5/06 at 2:12pm

I think the distinction between truly Bisexual people and totally insecure/self-loathing homophobe/messed up individual is getting blurred. Yes, there are people who claim to be Bi for a number of reasons. If you must pass Judgment, do so on their behavior, not on their true sexual orientation.

And, yes, some men who are 100% gay are able to get it hard and orgasm with a woman. It's called fantasizing. I mean a warm hole is a warm hole when the lights are out and your eyes are closed.

[RobbO]

Posted: 9/5/06 at 2:13pm

they're warm?!?

[Calvin]

Posted: 9/5/06 at 2:15pm

Unless I can find a hot guy with two huge back tumors to fantasize about, that would never work for me.

[doodlenyc]

Posted: 9/5/06 at 2:16pm

"And, yes, some men who are 100% gay are able to get it hard and orgasm with a woman. It's called fantasizing. I mean a warm hole is a warm hole when the lights are out and your eyes are closed."

I must be really, really gay then.

Perhaps I was oversimplifying my point about being able to "do it." thanks for clarifying.

[romantico]

Posted: 9/5/06 at 2:19pm

Warm? LOL!

[JailyardGuy]

Posted: 9/5/06 at 2:20pm

I must exist on some sort of time-space continuum of gayhood...

I could NOT ever get it on with a woman, and a hole is NOT a hole. KNOWING it was a woman would make it absolutely impossible for me to achieve an erection, let alone do anything with one. I am fully prepared to acknowledge that there is a very wide spectrum of sexuality, but I also think that there are a very few people out there who really *do* exist at the absolute extremes of the spectrum. I have never, ever, not for one NANOSECOND of my life, even CONTEMPLATED sexual activity with a female. I have never wanted to, never been curious, never wondered what it would be like...I simply have absolutely ZERO interest in it as a concept, and if I am forced to focus on the image of the actual anatomy in question, I find it very difficult to not shudder a little.

In the same vein, there are some men who will never ever ever ever even consider TOUCHING another man...doesn't mean they hate the gays, just means they have no interest in the homosex. Ditto chicks...I'm sure there are some who are HARDCORE lesbians (I have several gold-star lesbian friends, and boy are they...), and some who, despite the common perception of fluid female sexuality, have NO interest in experiencing another woman's jujuflower.

Can we all just go get drinks now?

[doodlenyc]

Posted: 9/5/06 at 2:22pm

Who's buyin'? I just paid my rent.

[JerseyGirl2]

Posted: 9/5/06 at 2:22pm

Well, as I learned on Weeds last week, apparently a banana peel makes a decent replacement.

I am ready for a drink. Alas, I am supposed to be working.

[DayDreamer]

Posted: 9/5/06 at 2:23pm

*joins jaily for drinks*

[doodlenyc]

Posted: 9/5/06 at 2:23pm

Cubby Hole, anyone?

[Calvin]

Posted: 9/5/06 at 2:23pm

Jaily, I must commend you on the most skilled use of the rarely seen noun "homosex" since the Nixon tapes.

[JailyardGuy]

Posted: 9/5/06 at 2:27pm

Thank you, darling. I owe it all to DL. (The Happiest Place On The Web...where The Man Go Up Into The Other Man.)

Updated On: 9/5/06 at 02:27 PM

[SueleenGay]

Posted: 9/5/06 at 2:27pm

Jaily, the venom that comes through in your total disgust for women says to me that there are more issues with a deeper root than the fact that you don't find women sexually appealing. Therapy anyone?

[WithoutATrace]

Posted: 9/5/06 at 2:31pm

Edit...decided to delete my post Updated On: 9/5/06 at 02:31 PM

[PalJoey]

Posted: 9/5/06 at 2:31pm

In my experience, JailyardGuy doesn't mean HALF the things he says.

Unfortunately, sometimes, he goes ahead and says them.

[JailyardGuy]

Posted: 9/5/06 at 2:31pm

I completely disagree, but you are welcome to your evaluation.

[RobbO]

Posted: 9/5/06 at 2:32pm

half? i like those odds.

[doodlenyc]

Posted: 9/5/06 at 2:33pm

Jaily speaks the truth...I wouldnt go "downtown" for any amount of money, let alone "perform."

That said, I absolutely adore women...one gave birth to me.

[DayDreamer]

Posted: 9/5/06 at 2:34pm

Love women. Most of my best friends are women. Lesbians at that! But would never consider being intimate with one. Never did. Very likely that I never will.

[RobbO]

Posted: 9/5/06 at 2:35pm

this thread reminds me of one of my favorite scenes from "chasing amy" :

Banky Edwards: Alright, now see this? This is a four-way road, OK? And dead in the center is a crisp, new, hundred dollar bill. Now, at the end of each of these streets are four people, OK? Are you following?
Holden: Yeah.
Banky Edwards: Good. Over here, we have a male-affectionate, easy to get along with, non-political agenda lesbian. Down here, we have a man-hating, angry as ****, agenda of rage, bitter dyke. Over here, we got Santa Claus, and up here the Easter Bunny. Which one is going to get to the hundred dollar bill first?
Holden: What is this supposed to prove?
Banky Edwards: No, I'm serious. This is a serious exercise. It's like an SAT question. Which one is going to get to the hundred dollar bill first? The male-friendly lesbian, the man-hating dyke, Santa Claus, or the Easter bunny?
Holden: The man-hating dyke.
Banky Edwards: Good. Why?
Holden: I don't know.
Banky Edwards: Because the other three are figments of your ****ing imagination!

[JerseyGirl2]

Posted: 9/5/06 at 2:38pm

I love that movie. lol I have a t-shirt with the sketch on it.

[jrb_actor]

Posted: 9/5/06 at 2:40pm

as long as you boys acknowledge that there is, in fact, nothing disgusting or repulsive about a woman's body (that which gave you life) and that the problem is within yourself. any secure gay boy can look at a naked woman and not feel disgust. this issue is no different to me than those straight boys who get all disgusted about other guys' bodies.

you are entitled to feel how you feel. but voicing it is indeed offensive.

[RobbO]

Posted: 9/5/06 at 2:42pm

why is it offensive if it is a valid opinion?

[Kringas]

Posted: 9/5/06 at 2:44pm

I was just raising an eyebrow at the words "extreme revulsion." Even if that's hyperbole, those are the words that were chosen and posted. And they're pretty harsh words.

[jrb_actor]

Posted: 9/5/06 at 2:46pm

because it sounds the same as saying

'looking at black people naked makes me shudder. I find it repulsive'

and when did u kinsey 6s start feeling the need to be on the defense in this thread?