Is "Twink"an offensive word?- Page 5

[CarlosAlberto]

Posted: 11/14/12 at 8:44pm

I met my boyfriend the old-fashioned way...in person and face to face...technology had nothing to do with it..but my beauty absolutely did..

[Playbilly]

Posted: 11/14/12 at 8:45pm

Yeah, DINK.

[EricMontreal22]

Posted: 11/14/12 at 8:46pm

Everything hipster is a contradiction.

[TheatreDiva90016]

Posted: 11/14/12 at 10:56pm

You people are filthy. dirty pigs.

[Yawper]

Posted: 11/15/12 at 12:17am

DINK is recent

TWINK dates back to yuppie

[Phyllis Rogers Stone]

Posted: 11/15/12 at 12:20am

Dink is as old as yuppie. I heard it in the 80s. I never heard twink. What this has to do with the thread, I'm not sure.

[Kad]

Posted: 11/15/12 at 12:33am

Wikipedia backs Phyllis up.

And apparently, twinks get their namesake from Twinkies.

So there you go.

[CATSNYrevival]

Posted: 11/15/12 at 12:53am

^That's why I don't like being called a twink. Makes me feel like I'm all fluff on the outside with nothing to offer on the inside except creamy white stuff.

That being said, I'm not gonna get all pissed off if someone calls me one like the one direction kids.

[Kad]

Posted: 11/15/12 at 1:28am

But unlike Twinkies, twinks aren't good after ten years.

[tazber]

Posted: 11/15/12 at 6:05am

^^^
LOL

[Yawper]

Posted: 11/15/12 at 6:24am

for those of Vietnam war age DINK is an ethnic pejorative

[CarlosAlberto]

Posted: 11/15/12 at 8:00am

Twink, Dink...whatever. These and other labels are bandied about by deeply troubled, insecure people.

Updated On: 11/15/12 at 08:00 AM

[themysteriousgrowl]

Posted: 11/15/12 at 8:12am

And yet I know many, many people who would call the use of these words a form of empowerment.

[Playbilly]

Posted: 11/15/12 at 8:54am

Growl, that's kinda sad. Need an imposed label for self esteem.

[Jordan Catalano]

Posted: 11/15/12 at 9:01am

They're a way gay men can stay clique-y and therefore stay in high school forever.

[themysteriousgrowl]

Posted: 11/15/12 at 9:05am

Kinda like BWW!

[tazber]

Posted: 11/15/12 at 9:42am

It's funny that it took so long for this to be mentioned, but to many people (in fact most people I know who fit the category), being called a "twink" is a compliment.

It conveys youth which is desirable, especially among gay men who so often define themselves by such external (and fleeting) attributes.

[Master Bates]

Posted: 11/15/12 at 9:45am

If it makes you feel better, Phyllis, you look much older than 38.

[doodlenyc]

Posted: 11/15/12 at 10:17am

Y'all make me feel f**king old!

[Playbilly]

Posted: 11/15/12 at 10:38am

Doodle, you're only as old as you look....uh, I mean feel. Yes, feel!!

Updated On: 11/15/12 at 10:38 AM

[doodlenyc]

Posted: 11/15/12 at 10:43am

God, I hope I look younger than I feel!
Sciatica and GERD are constant companions!

[themysteriousgrowl]

Posted: 11/15/12 at 10:44am

With me, too, doodle, me, too.

[doodlenyc]

Posted: 11/15/12 at 10:49am

If I had a kid, I'd owe it to St. Ives.

Moisturize, babies! It seems rough out there! Grindr seems like a nightmare!

[CalebMeyer]

Posted: 11/15/12 at 1:21pm

I'm so glad that this conversation is happening. As a younger gay guy (younger as in still in college) I've always struggled with trying to figure out where i fit in in the gay community. Sometimes it feels like my personal life is governed by these idiotic rules, stereotypes, and categories that I fall into. I go to one of the most LGBTQ friendly colleges in America, which is wonderful coming from a small conservative town where I was the only (out) gay kid, but it's such a constant struggle to be what the gay community here wants and expects me to be. I'm starting to reach a point where I just don't give a f**k. If I want to wear my heels one day, and my flannel shirt the next day, then goddamn I'm gonna do it!

Ok...rant over!

[doodlenyc]

Posted: 11/15/12 at 1:25pm

Caleb, these labels will only define you if you let them. Just be true to yourself. It's really as simple as that.

The tough part is that so many young and old(er) gay men do let themselves be defined by others.