Is "Twink"an offensive word? — Page 4

First of all...31? Damn, you working that Pearl Cream, aintcha?

And B...that SH*T ain't cute. It happens to me in reverse. Like I'm some exotic pet. A labradoodle or some such thing.

Aww, thanks, Robbie. That's nice. It's important to look young!

In gay years, 25 is ancient, and 30 is dead, after all!

But, yeah, it's super gross.

Sometimes I feel like I'm too hard on gay men, but then I remember that I'm just hard on assholes in general. (Tee hee hee hee.)

This Grindr situation sounds dire.

I can't believe I've seen nothing of it in my News Feed.

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My twin sister largely now has no interest in going to gay bars with me, for exactly the reason Growl said. I admit, it used to annoy me when I started going because she would get instant attention--guys wanting to dance with her the moment she walks in--and I'd be ignored or barely aknowledged. Now, I have more sympathy for her--she knows that it's barely even about who she is. Now, when we do encounter a drunk gay friend of mine who reacts that way, I have to work hard to tell her that he genuinely WAS excited to meet her, and is a nice, bearable guy--at least when sober and not on the dance floor.

I admit, with Sassy Gay Friend, the fact I know the comic is so openly gay (he even made one of those annoying albeit well intentioned It Gets Better vids) makes me give him leeway for playing up the stereotype since he clearly seems to know what it is--and I found the lit humour about how stupid various characters behaved mildly amusing.

Well, you've also got the problem the vast majority of people on Grinder seem to be lying about their ages. I'm kind of compulsively honest bout stuff like that, because I don't know what people expect is going to happen when they meet someone and it turns out they are using a picture that's ten years old or that they are 50 pounds heavier than they said they were (and I have no issue with a heavier guy. Indeed, like Robbie, I tend to gravitate towards guys like that, but it's the lying that just gets to me). I once dated a guy and didn't find out until three months in that he was ten years older than he told me he was online!

I never know what to do about my age, because I'm 38 and I look younger, so when I put my real age on Grindr I wonder if people really think I'm 43 and using a much older picture.

^LOL (<--that was for Kad's last post)

It's funny. When I was 23, Kad, people thought I was in my 30s, and now that I'm in my 30s, people think I'm in my 20s. I'm not sure what causes that. I hope when I'm in my 70s, people think I'm in my 80s and then when I'm in my 80s I'll be dead.

My Facebook friends definitely share their Grindr stories.

They post screencaps, for God's sake.

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Updated On: 11/14/12 at 05:34 PM

The age thing is obnoxious--when I was underaged, I had no trouble getting into bars, or buying booze which I found cool enough. Then in my early 20s, I admit I was kinda insulted when my friends would get carded and I wouldn't. Now I'm in my early 30s, and in the past 4 years get carded more often than not (I even had someone at the liquor store refuse to believe my ID was legit), which may have to do partly with the fact that I look after myself better now, but really is just a chore.

But I'm sure everyone who has met people from online has had stories of meeting up with someone who looks VASTLY different from their pics (older, heavier, hair, etc). As others said, I just don't get it. If you are intending to actually met people from the site--and not just chat--and these guys obviously are, are you just hoping that once you do the person won't remember what your pic was, or will feel sorry for you, or something? I met one person who clearly hadn't even been using his own photo and he literally stood there confused, whining "But I drove all of this way! You sure you don't just wanna do something?" It's not what they look like, so much that if you can't trust them from the start to at least be trying to represent who they are, there doesn't seem to be much possibility from there.

And ugh about that Bear webseries--a few of them are kinda hot, but so far I find gay reality shows even more off-putting than straight ones.

Oh grindr. When will you be up again??

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I think I first used Gay.com in about 1997 (?). I recently logged on and was delighted to see some of my "pals" still active and even online. I remember one guy because we hooked up on 9/10/2001- the night before 9/11. I remember him fondly so I went to say hi- SAME picture and he's still claiming to be 26. I didn't believe he was 26 twelve years ago. I certainly don't think he was 14.

Alternative meaning formerly used a lot in economic discussions (i.e. context matters):

TWo Income, No Kids

^I'm pretty sure twinks aren't allowed to have facial hair. That makes them a jwink or a twunk.

I always thought the more common acronym was DINK: dual income, no kids.

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Mustache is fine--there are plenty of hipster twinks.

Phyllis, I still see the body contact thing a lot--which like you said, doesn't exactly get very specific... Of course there's always the classic where the guy has only a****shot or torso pic but says in his profile he's only looking for friends, no one night stands...