Ok guys.....romance problems

tell him how you feel and see if he feels the same way. if you don't, you'll waste a lot of time wondering about what might have been.

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I had this same situation my senior year of high school--I told him, he rejected me and you know what? I don't regret it. It was embarrassing for like a day, and then I moved on. And I'm really glad I'm not wasting time thinking of him as "the one who got away".

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No, you can ask us, just not Matt.

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depends how much you like the woman in Texas. but I say go for it, because if you don't you could spend too much time in CA comparing other women to her.

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I love being bitter, It's quite fun. Both as for both of you, I think you should go for it. Flings are VERY healthy and VERY vital to the development of a teenager. Unless, the person your having a fling with has a bug in the britches.

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EW yes avoid diseases those are not fun

I wouldn't. I've seen many many more relationships deteriorate rather rapidly than survive college.

It seems that the change in environment and that disconnect just doesn't work. College does a huge number on your maturity, you skyrocket and the person who is left behind doesn't. It's just an entirely different world. You could try, but I wouldnt say it has a great chance of working out.

Is it me...or did something severe happen to this thread?

"The Date Doctor" (the real guy that Hitch was based on) actually came to my school and adressed this as well as many other relationship problems... so, sometime when you and your friend are just hanging up, really casually be like "hey, have you ever thought about us being more than friends" and if he says something along the "no" lines, you can be like "haha yeah me neither" but if he feels the same way, then there you go. good luck!

also, starting college in a relationship - either long distance or at the same college - is a bad idea, i have more examples than I can count of it not working out. too much growing happens.

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Updated On: 5/9/06 at 06:11 PM

This is just what I needed.

Boyfriend of 3 months - things aren't going very well. He used to be amazingly sweet and loving, and now I guess hes lost interest. I'm still very much in love with him but I have a feeling he's stopped loving me back. So I tried to talk to him about it....he says he doesn't know. Since that conversation was over the phone, I've been trying for 2 weeks now to talk to him in person, but he never has the time for me (or is avoiding me). He treats me very indifferently and has broken promises that he knows means a lot to me numerous times. Hes just generally become a huge jerk to me. Unfortunately, this doesn't change the way I feel about him.
It hurts to really care about someone that doesn't care about you in return....especially when you've experienced how great it is when they DID care about you.
I know I need to break it off with him but I feel like that will make things 10 times as painful as they already are. I can't look at other guys the way I look at him anymore and I can't (and don't even want to) imagine myself with anyone else. I'm especially afraid of how painfull it will be to see him with another girl and knowing what its like to have been her.

heeeeelllllllllp

awh thank you.
That actually helped a lot.

thanks soapguy.
I'm definately going to keep that in mind if I have to watch him with someone else. Its a good way to look at it, and I probably wouldn't have seen it that way.

Thanks so much.

ps. "These people either grow up or die alone." ...hahaha, another good way to look at things. thanks again