Ok guys.....romance problems

[Elphaba43]

Posted: 5/8/06 at 3:33pm

Ok, there's a guy that I like and he's a senior and in band. He's absolutely adorable and I want to take the chance but, I just don't know. Well, today I talked to him and I was all like "oh yeah there's this guy that I like and he's a senior" but I didn't tell him I like him. Should I take the chance of getting my heart broken and tell him? I mean, if I were just to date him until graduation, I'd be soo happy. What should I do?

[dramaqueen3]

Posted: 5/8/06 at 5:16pm

tell him how you feel and see if he feels the same way. if you don't, you'll waste a lot of time wondering about what might have been.

[withoutlove78]

Posted: 5/8/06 at 7:49pm

i agree...i mean, what's the worst that could happen? obviously him telling you he doesn't feel the same wouldn't be great, but it's not long till graduation, so i say take the chance!

[downtowndiva84]

Posted: 5/8/06 at 8:21pm

I had this same situation my senior year of high school--I told him, he rejected me and you know what? I don't regret it. It was embarrassing for like a day, and then I moved on. And I'm really glad I'm not wasting time thinking of him as "the one who got away".

[MattSingsAlot]

Posted: 5/8/06 at 8:27pm

Here's my advice...never ask theater people for advice with relationships! :-P

[BwayTheatre11]

Posted: 5/8/06 at 8:48pm

No, you can ask us, just not Matt.

[treyisthekiller]

Posted: 5/8/06 at 9:39pm

ok...ladies...this ones for you.

i am moving to california, from texas, to attend the American Academy of Dramatic Arts in LA in july.

should i pursue the woman in my eyes right now, knowing im moving? or should i wait to see what happens once im in california?

[dramaqueen3]

Posted: 5/9/06 at 12:10am

depends how much you like the woman in Texas. but I say go for it, because if you don't you could spend too much time in CA comparing other women to her.

[MattSingsAlot]

Posted: 5/9/06 at 12:17am

Being a bitter slut is fun too...

[soapguy17]

Posted: 5/9/06 at 7:11am

I love being bitter, It's quite fun. Both as for both of you, I think you should go for it. Flings are VERY healthy and VERY vital to the development of a teenager. Unless, the person your having a fling with has a bug in the britches.

[TabooWickedFan]

Posted: 5/9/06 at 7:44am

you should go for it, i would personally rather know then always wondering "what if..."

Updated On: 5/9/06 at 07:44 AM

[MattSingsAlot]

Posted: 5/9/06 at 7:56am

EW yes avoid diseases those are not fun

[millie_dillmount]

Posted: 5/9/06 at 3:17pm

The thing is, do you want to get involved with someone who is going off to college?

[MattSingsAlot]

Posted: 5/9/06 at 4:25pm

I wouldn't. I've seen many many more relationships deteriorate rather rapidly than survive college.

It seems that the change in environment and that disconnect just doesn't work. College does a huge number on your maturity, you skyrocket and the person who is left behind doesn't. It's just an entirely different world. You could try, but I wouldnt say it has a great chance of working out.

[millie_dillmount]

Posted: 5/9/06 at 4:52pm

I ended up having a bf last summer...we started going out early June. Then he went to Europe all summer, and he knew I was going to college. We ended up breaking up when he got back. You're gonna meet tons of people in college - so I don't recommend starting a relationship with someone from high school who is about to go to college. Some people can make it work, some can't, but from past experiences, I don't think it's a good idea.

[BSoBW2]

Posted: 5/9/06 at 5:08pm

Is it me...or did something severe happen to this thread?

[forni-kate]

Posted: 5/9/06 at 5:08pm

Since everyone seems to be spilling their romanace problems, I might as well not start a new thread...

So I've had a thing for my best friend for quite a while. He's a completely sweetheart, extremely talented, and, of course, ridiculously cute. I'm generally one of those girls who just blatantly flirts with any cute guy, but with him I am just too scared to even flirt, in case he realizes that I have feelings for him and freaks out.

Now grad is coming up in about a month, and he's moving out of town (only about 40 minutes out of town). He's single at the moment, and we're closer than we've ever been...should I just go for it and let him know that I have feelings for him? And if so, how the hell do I go about doing that!?

[dramaqueen3]

Posted: 5/9/06 at 6:11pm

"The Date Doctor" (the real guy that Hitch was based on) actually came to my school and adressed this as well as many other relationship problems... so, sometime when you and your friend are just hanging up, really casually be like "hey, have you ever thought about us being more than friends" and if he says something along the "no" lines, you can be like "haha yeah me neither" but if he feels the same way, then there you go. good luck!

also, starting college in a relationship - either long distance or at the same college - is a bad idea, i have more examples than I can count of it not working out. too much growing happens.

Updated On: 5/9/06 at 06:11 PM

[forni-kate]

Posted: 5/9/06 at 6:47pm

Well, as scary as that sounds, I might give it a shot. I mean, I would definitely regret never telling him how I feel, especially since we seem to work so well together.

Posted: 5/9/06 at 9:17pm

This is just what I needed.

Boyfriend of 3 months - things aren't going very well. He used to be amazingly sweet and loving, and now I guess hes lost interest. I'm still very much in love with him but I have a feeling he's stopped loving me back. So I tried to talk to him about it....he says he doesn't know. Since that conversation was over the phone, I've been trying for 2 weeks now to talk to him in person, but he never has the time for me (or is avoiding me). He treats me very indifferently and has broken promises that he knows means a lot to me numerous times. Hes just generally become a huge jerk to me. Unfortunately, this doesn't change the way I feel about him.
It hurts to really care about someone that doesn't care about you in return....especially when you've experienced how great it is when they DID care about you.
I know I need to break it off with him but I feel like that will make things 10 times as painful as they already are. I can't look at other guys the way I look at him anymore and I can't (and don't even want to) imagine myself with anyone else. I'm especially afraid of how painfull it will be to see him with another girl and knowing what its like to have been her.

heeeeelllllllllp

[dramaqueen3]

Posted: 5/9/06 at 10:56pm

I know that it's probably really tough for you right now, but I do think you ought to break things off with him, because I honestly think that staying with him isn't going help anything. And if youo break up with him, if he still cares - it'll be a wake up call to him, and if he doesn't - you'll know and it might help speed up the moving on process.

and some quotes from "He's Just Not Into You"
"But what I can do is paint a picture of what you'll never see when you're with a guy who's really into you: You'll never see you staring maniacally at your phone, willing it to ring. You'll never see you ruining an evening with friends because you're calling for your messages every fifteen seconds. You'll never see you hating yourself for calling him when you know you shouldn't have. What you will see is you being treated so well that no phone antics will be necessary. You'll be too busy being adored."

"meeting someone you like and dating him is supposed to make you feel better, not worse"

Best of luck!

Posted: 5/10/06 at 3:13pm

awh thank you.
That actually helped a lot.

[soapguy17]

Posted: 5/10/06 at 4:58pm

Play It Cool, I've been there and I'm sure you won't like to hear this ,but. . . drop him. If he's lost interest the relationship's not worth getting his attention again. When you see him with another girl you'll know it's only a matter of time before he gets tired of them also. These people either grow up or die alone.

Posted: 5/10/06 at 9:06pm

thanks soapguy.
I'm definately going to keep that in mind if I have to watch him with someone else. Its a good way to look at it, and I probably wouldn't have seen it that way.

Thanks so much.

ps. "These people either grow up or die alone." ...hahaha, another good way to look at things. thanks again

[nztheatreluva]

Posted: 5/13/06 at 4:18am

Forni-Kate, I say go for it.

I've had a thing for one of my really good friends for ages and we got to the stage where we were basically going out in everything but the actual title, so I finally told him. I mean, he said he'd rather just stay friends, but it's just gone back to normal and I've kind of realised that's fine cause we were obviously good enough friends in the first place. if you tell him and he likes you too, then that's all good, but if he doesn't, you should be good enough friends to stay friends. You might as well take the chance