The Official Adam Pascal Love Thread, part nine — Page 147

I'm not always the best at practicing what I preach, but the only real word of advice that I can offer is to think about how much this is really going to matter in five or ten years from now. I often find that when dealing with nerve-wracking situations, it helps to put the event in perspective more than anything else (like what Chloe said). Good luck!

Um... if you want to hear something really silly, I'm slightly nervous to go to prom tomorrow. I feel like things will be so awkward with my date because I'm not into him at all and have to dance with him for at least some of the time. However, I'm excited for the after-party, and I think I'll be glad that I went to my senior prom when I look back on this time.

Heh, thanks. The problem is that he's into me, and I'm not into him, so I'll have to make a quick getaway.

Really, though, I'm grateful to be going. I didn't think I'd get asked at all. I have a tendency to intimidate guys (why I have no idea) and I don't exactly look like the type of girl most guys go for at my school, so I'm just happy I was asked. It'll probably turn out better than I expect!

Have a great time, despite the awkwardness. The guys are probably afraid that you're smarter than they are, which is probably true. Hopefully you'll soon meet one of those unintimidatable Adam types who will like that you're smart. In the meantime it never hurts to assume that any guy's ego is ten times more vulnerable than you think.

Ah, I see, Lexi. And it's not all that out of the ordinary for guys to find a smart girl intimidating.

Anyway, prom is a lot of fun as long as you don't overdo it with your expectations. I had a great time at my prom and especially the after-prom festivities even though I didn't have a date and was sharing a limo with a bunch of couples, including the guy I wanted to go with and the girl he asked instead.

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Updated On: 4/21/06 at 05:05 PM

I definitely agree that SOME ego can almost be attractive. I like a guy who's confident without being pretentious, you know? "Too much ego can make you ugly...."

I have a very, very close friend from high school who has had strong feelings for me for years. We dated our first year of high school, but broke it off... kind of mutually. Every year, we'd have this like... bi-annual fight about why we weren't together and things; I have a lot of personal issues with trusting people in romantic relationships, and a very deep fear of allowing that to harm a friendship, plus the fact that I just wasn't attracted to him, for the most part. Finally, about a month ago, we sat down and had a discussion about it, after years of advances and discomfort. To get things out in the open and come to an agreement was such a relief.

.... I don't know why I told that story.

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Yeah, the ego thing can be tricky on both ends. While I want a guy who's smart and successful, I don't think I'd be able to handle it very well if he got better grades or made more money than me, and I have no problem with admitting that.

Lexi, I can't wait to see pictures! Even though I'm generally all about the T-Shirt and jeans, I also love dressing up for special occasions (which is why I aggravate my parents by packing all of my fancy dresses when we go on a cruise that has 2 formal nights out of 7).

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My exhaustion-induced response to weird LJ colorbars.

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It's not something I would do without my parents' permission, because its' a TON of money. I wasn't expecting them to give me anything for my birthday, since we went to see Company, and that was more than perfectly fine. But if they're going to give me a present, I think I would rather this than some object that's just going to sit on a dresser. I feel guilty accepting another gift, period, because that trip was a lot, but they keep asking what I want. I think I have to decide if it's justifiable in my own mind, first.

I just bought a really fun four-color eye shadow; it's two shades of teal and two shades of earth-tone tans.

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Updated On: 4/21/06 at 05:43 PM

I can't wear teal-colored eyeshadow. It looks strange on me. Actually, anything that isn't pink or purple doesn't work for me. I had a really deep green eyeshadow that I got for free once -- I looked horrific.

Jessica, I generally use Clinique as well, mixed in with some Revlon products (I've found that their makeup is the best of the drugstore brands). Unfortunately, Clinique's foundation tends to go orange on me and their eyeshadow doesn't seem to stick, even with a nude base.

I think my skin is generally kind to me, sans my nose blackheads, because it knows that it put me through hell in late middle school/early high school. :)

I have a fear of returning to pink/blue/purple eyeshadow. It makes me think of middle school and early high school, when I actually thought those colors looked good on me. I always wanted one of thos makeovers at Bloomingdales where they tell you what works for your skin. Now, I generally stick with tan/light brown/gold colors.

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Updated On: 4/21/06 at 05:52 PM

I used to wear shimmery Hard Candy light blue eye shadow. Oy.

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Baby oil? Hm, I've never heard of using that for moisturizing. I use Neutrogena's Oil-Free Moisture lotion after washing my face. It works very well. In fact, I've found that moisturizing helps to prevent breakouts.

Fantab, I can see you with pinkish eyeshadow. It really helps to give a "natural" look, although I'm sure your earthy colors look wonderful as well. By the way, did Larry reply again? I totally forgot about that.