The Official Adam Pascal Love Thread, part nine- Page 147

[To The Stage!]

Posted: 4/21/06 at 4:20pm

I'm sure you will get in dancinqueen! Good luck!

[Chloe]

Posted: 4/21/06 at 4:22pm

Sweetie, anyone who feels their fate's being decided by something is bound to be scared. It's not your fate, it's just a school activity. Some day you're going to laugh at yourself for getting so worked up over this. Good luck, though. I'm sure you'll give it your best shot, and that's the most important thing.

::sorry to be so heavy on the platitudes today::

Posted: 4/21/06 at 4:41pm

I'm not always the best at practicing what I preach, but the only real word of advice that I can offer is to think about how much this is really going to matter in five or ten years from now. I often find that when dealing with nerve-wracking situations, it helps to put the event in perspective more than anything else (like what Chloe said). Good luck!

Um... if you want to hear something really silly, I'm slightly nervous to go to prom tomorrow. I feel like things will be so awkward with my date because I'm not into him at all and have to dance with him for at least some of the time. However, I'm excited for the after-party, and I think I'll be glad that I went to my senior prom when I look back on this time.

[Billboard Girl]

Posted: 4/21/06 at 4:51pm

Aww, Lexi, I'm sure you'll have a good time at your prom. If you and your date are just going as friends and not as a couple, it's totally acceptable to only dance together for a song or two.

Posted: 4/21/06 at 4:53pm

Heh, thanks. The problem is that he's into me, and I'm not into him, so I'll have to make a quick getaway.

Really, though, I'm grateful to be going. I didn't think I'd get asked at all. I have a tendency to intimidate guys (why I have no idea) and I don't exactly look like the type of girl most guys go for at my school, so I'm just happy I was asked. It'll probably turn out better than I expect!

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 4/21/06 at 5:00pm

You're right, and that's a good way to think of it; it'll probably turn out better than you expect it to be. Just go in willing to have fun, and try not to be too hung up on the social logistics. Think of it as an opportunity to spend some quality time with your friends.

[Chloe]

Posted: 4/21/06 at 5:01pm

Have a great time, despite the awkwardness. The guys are probably afraid that you're smarter than they are, which is probably true. Hopefully you'll soon meet one of those unintimidatable Adam types who will like that you're smart. In the meantime it never hurts to assume that any guy's ego is ten times more vulnerable than you think.

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 4/21/06 at 5:03pm

It's a tough balance, with egotism is guys, I think. Like, the really vulnerable ones can be annoyingly clingly, especially if they have feelings for you that are not mutual (I have a friend like that, and thankfully we've *finally* both come to terms with the situation). But you don't want to hope for ego, either, because too much ego... not good.

[Billboard Girl]

Posted: 4/21/06 at 5:05pm

Ah, I see, Lexi. And it's not all that out of the ordinary for guys to find a smart girl intimidating.

Anyway, prom is a lot of fun as long as you don't overdo it with your expectations. I had a great time at my prom and especially the after-prom festivities even though I didn't have a date and was sharing a limo with a bunch of couples, including the guy I wanted to go with and the girl he asked instead.

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Posted: 4/21/06 at 5:16pm

Aw, thanks girls. It probably doesn't help that I'm a very honest and blunt person, either. I'm also not trying to scream "pity me!" or anything like that -- just sharing some observations that I'm sure a good percentage of girls here have experienced as well.

Em, you're certainly right in trying to find a balance between confidence and egotism. My ex-boyfriend definitely had ego problems, and while somewhat of an ego can be strangely attractive, he truly took it too far to the point where he alienated all of his friends.

I'm sure I'll have at least some fun. I'll take photos and show everyone later! I love getting dressed up.

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 4/21/06 at 5:19pm

I definitely agree that SOME ego can almost be attractive. I like a guy who's confident without being pretentious, you know? "Too much ego can make you ugly...."

I have a very, very close friend from high school who has had strong feelings for me for years. We dated our first year of high school, but broke it off... kind of mutually. Every year, we'd have this like... bi-annual fight about why we weren't together and things; I have a lot of personal issues with trusting people in romantic relationships, and a very deep fear of allowing that to harm a friendship, plus the fact that I just wasn't attracted to him, for the most part. Finally, about a month ago, we sat down and had a discussion about it, after years of advances and discomfort. To get things out in the open and come to an agreement was such a relief.

.... I don't know why I told that story.

Posted: 4/21/06 at 5:29pm

I wish I could have had an open and honest discussion with my ex-boyfriend about our issues. Unfortunately, he chose to cut me out of his life without giving a real explanation. Oh well, life goes on (and he's stuck here while I'm moving to NY in a couple months!).

On a lighter note, I bought foundation and eye shadow for prom from Lancome. It came to over $80. My jaw dropped when she told me the total.

[Billboard Girl]

Posted: 4/21/06 at 5:32pm

Yeah, the ego thing can be tricky on both ends. While I want a guy who's smart and successful, I don't think I'd be able to handle it very well if he got better grades or made more money than me, and I have no problem with admitting that.

Lexi, I can't wait to see pictures! Even though I'm generally all about the T-Shirt and jeans, I also love dressing up for special occasions (which is why I aggravate my parents by packing all of my fancy dresses when we go on a cruise that has 2 formal nights out of 7).

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 4/21/06 at 5:33pm

Well, it took five years. But, it got to the point where I missed him because he's a good friend, but at the same time dreaded seeing him, because it was always so uncomfortable.

What color eyeshadow? That's ridiculously expensive.

I'm losely toying with going on Monday. My grandmother gave me nearly half the amount for my birthday, and my parents want to buy me something, but... I don't really want them to buy me something I'm never going to use, you know? My mom just called and briefly asked about it, and where I was going to get the rest of the money. I still haven't decided on my own if I think it's worth it yet; it's for great causes, and I have the money, but that's a LOT of money. I think I would feel guilty spending it on one night.

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[guitargeek0624]

Posted: 4/21/06 at 5:38pm

My exhaustion-induced response to weird LJ colorbars.

Posted: 4/21/06 at 5:39pm

Me too, Jessica. Ideally, I'd love my partner to be equal in all monetary/intellectual respects, but that's obviously quite unrealistic.

It's a palette of four colors -- three different shades of pinkish purple and a tan. It's very pretty, but I had no idea how much it cost until she rang it up. I think I'll stick with Revlon from now on. Heh.

Regarding the benefit... as for everyone who's asked about this, I've only had one word of advice for them -- do what you personally feel is best. Personally, I can't fathom spending that kind of money on a performance, but it all has to do with how much you value seeing it. If you ultimately feel comfortable spending that kind of money on the performance, than more power to you. That's all that matters.

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 4/21/06 at 5:43pm

It's not something I would do without my parents' permission, because its' a TON of money. I wasn't expecting them to give me anything for my birthday, since we went to see Company, and that was more than perfectly fine. But if they're going to give me a present, I think I would rather this than some object that's just going to sit on a dresser. I feel guilty accepting another gift, period, because that trip was a lot, but they keep asking what I want. I think I have to decide if it's justifiable in my own mind, first.

I just bought a really fun four-color eye shadow; it's two shades of teal and two shades of earth-tone tans.

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[Billboard Girl]

Posted: 4/21/06 at 5:45pm

Between how expensive makeup can be and my creature-of-inertia tendencies, I usually just keep using the same Clinique stuff all the time, along with a few things left over from my mom's stint as a Mary Kay beauty consultant. When it comes to the skincare routine, though, I stick with a rather expensive brand that I first started using after a facial on a cruise a few years back. I tried to switch to Clinique around the time I started college, but I broke out so badly that I had to go back to the expensive spa stuff.

Posted: 4/21/06 at 5:49pm

I can't wear teal-colored eyeshadow. It looks strange on me. Actually, anything that isn't pink or purple doesn't work for me. I had a really deep green eyeshadow that I got for free once -- I looked horrific.

Jessica, I generally use Clinique as well, mixed in with some Revlon products (I've found that their makeup is the best of the drugstore brands). Unfortunately, Clinique's foundation tends to go orange on me and their eyeshadow doesn't seem to stick, even with a nude base.

I think my skin is generally kind to me, sans my nose blackheads, because it knows that it put me through hell in late middle school/early high school. :)

[Chloe]

Posted: 4/21/06 at 5:52pm

Ever since I read that the function of a moisturizer was to keep water from evaporating from your skin and that baby oil works just as well as anything else, that's all I've used. Who knows, I may be missing out though.

[Fantabulous428]

Posted: 4/21/06 at 5:52pm

I have a fear of returning to pink/blue/purple eyeshadow. It makes me think of middle school and early high school, when I actually thought those colors looked good on me. I always wanted one of thos makeovers at Bloomingdales where they tell you what works for your skin. Now, I generally stick with tan/light brown/gold colors.

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[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 4/21/06 at 5:53pm

I didn't think I could wear those colors, but my eyes are so... they're really not a pinpoint-able color, so it ended up working.

[Fantabulous428]

Posted: 4/21/06 at 5:54pm

I used to wear shimmery Hard Candy light blue eye shadow. Oy.

[Billboard Girl]

Posted: 4/21/06 at 5:55pm

I don't use foundation unless it's a special occasion and my mom makes me use it because even the oil-free stuff just feels like it's going to make me break out.

Aside from the monthly/stress-induced breakouts and annoying large pores on my nose, my skin is generally pretty calm after a few nightmare years early in my teens.

Posted: 4/21/06 at 5:56pm

Baby oil? Hm, I've never heard of using that for moisturizing. I use Neutrogena's Oil-Free Moisture lotion after washing my face. It works very well. In fact, I've found that moisturizing helps to prevent breakouts.

Fantab, I can see you with pinkish eyeshadow. It really helps to give a "natural" look, although I'm sure your earthy colors look wonderful as well. By the way, did Larry reply again? I totally forgot about that.