The Official Adam Pascal Love Thread, part six- Page 98

[xoxRogue]

Posted: 2/12/06 at 12:33am

Good night and have a pleasant tomorrow Chloe.

[Billboard Girl]

Posted: 2/12/06 at 12:34am

Night, Chloe.

And I'll just echo the general "senior year = hell" sentiment. I got into really awful fights with my parents on pretty much a daily basis about everything, from stupid s**t to important decisions.

[CanadianSnowbird]

Posted: 2/12/06 at 12:35am

Goodnight Chloe.

[ElphieDefiesGravity]

Posted: 2/12/06 at 12:37am

Okay, so my dad just got mad at me for not clearing the dishwasher. I was about to do it, honestly. So then he said, "Since you didn't do it earlier, we couldn't clean the kitchen, so now you can do it." no. F*CKing. way. What he said isn't even true because he was watching a movie until about 10 minutes before I cleared the dishwasher. And the kitchen is a mess because of his stupid little party he just had. Sometimes, I would like nothing better than to punch him.

[Shiksa Goddess2]

Posted: 2/12/06 at 12:39am

I know that feeling well...

[orangeskittles]

Posted: 2/12/06 at 12:42am

My first full day home for break, my dad yelled at me for not emptying the dishwasher. I hadn't even USED a dish yet at home!

[ElphieDefiesGravity]

Posted: 2/12/06 at 12:42am

Okay, enough being sad and upset for today; I'm going to bed. I'm going to pray that it snows so I don't have to go to work tomorrow morning.

Tomorrow will be a better day.

BTW, I got Without You in the mail today, and I'm 100 pages in. I'm pacing myself. I want it to last at least until Monday.

[xoxRogue]

Posted: 2/12/06 at 12:46am

Good night Elphie!

[Shiksa Goddess2]

Posted: 2/12/06 at 12:46am

Night Elphie!

My first day home for winter break and my dad called me a 'selfish son of a bitch'(I'm a girl... and my mom is so not a bitch), and told me he wished I never came home.

[Katt]

Posted: 2/12/06 at 12:50am

I've been called so many things by my parents. "Smartass, Hard headed spoiled brat, selfish, you only think about yourself," etc.

I think I set myself up for it. My parents and I fight a lot, but admittedly I deserve it a lot of the time. I just can't see that at the time of the fight. Then I feel really bad later on.

[Billboard Girl]

Posted: 2/12/06 at 12:50am

Night, Elphie.

For the first few nights of winter break this year, my mom would pick a fight with me every night about how late I was staying up. It's crap like that that makes me want to stay at my dorm even when I can go home for the weekend, and a big part of why I'm living on-campus this summer.

[Shiksa Goddess2]

Posted: 2/12/06 at 12:54am

I'm glad it's not both my parents, my Mom is great, but my dad stands for everything I hate. I guess I'm to blame for some of the fights (though not that particular one), but I lost all respect for him a long time ago over something he said when Matthew Shepard died, and he will never earn it back (nor has he tried).

[Katt]

Posted: 2/12/06 at 12:58am

Sometimes I get so mad at my parents, especially when they want me to get off the computer or go to bed. But then I realize, I'm not making it easy on them either, and I SHOULD be doing what they say. Like I said, I always feel guilty later on after we fight.

[Shiksa Goddess2]

Posted: 2/12/06 at 1:02am

I've never felt sorry for it- I know that's terrible, but it's the truth. If he never says sorry then I don't see the point in saying it myself, especially when I wouldn't mean it. Gosh, I sound so bitter, I just... ugh, I can't stand him, I honestly can't stand being near him.

[Billboard Girl]

Posted: 2/12/06 at 1:04am

If I thought my parents thought I meant even a fraction of the things I've said during fights, I would never be able to forgive myself.

[Shiksa Goddess2]

Posted: 2/12/06 at 1:06am

I do regret some things I have said to my mom, but I've never had a huge fight with her. When I was little and I didn't get my way, I would call her mean and say I didn't like her- that I regret. That said- every word I've said to my dad I have meant, it's terrible.

[Katt]

Posted: 2/12/06 at 1:09am

Sometimes I just think about it, and I don't want them to be happy that I leave, or say that it was hard raising me. I wish that I was a better person and didn't fight with them.

[Shiksa Goddess2]

Posted: 2/12/06 at 1:11am

Katt, we need to trade emotions, so I feel regret and you stop feeling bad.

[Katt]

Posted: 2/12/06 at 1:13am

I've just come to realize all of this now. Back in middle school, I used to post a lot of angry stuff about them in my livejournal, which was public at the time. And I think that my mom read it, which, for one thing, is kind of annoying that she went online and did that, but another is that I feel bad about whatever I said. But as I've gotten older I've come to realize that it isn't easy for them either. It's very frustrating sometimes though.

[Billboard Girl]

Posted: 2/12/06 at 1:15am

Even though there are quite a few things my dad and I strongly disagree on (most of them having to do with politics), we rarely fight. Perhaps it's because we recognize that our nearly identical personalities make it truly awful when we do fight, but it's mainly that we really respect one another and understand where the other person is coming from even if we don't agree. As much as I love my mom and vice versa, however, she knows exactly how to get under my skin and has no qualms about admitting that she enjoys it. We fight a lot, sometimes about things that are a big deal but mostly about really dumb meaningless things, and it's hard to spend more than a few hours with her before an argument is provoked. The bad thing about fighting with my mom is that even when she knows I didn't mean whatever nasty things I said, she'll stay upset about them long after I've moved on and forgotten why I was even mad in the first place.

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[Shiksa Goddess2]

Posted: 2/12/06 at 1:15am

I'm sorry, I wish I could help.

[Fantabulous428]

Posted: 2/12/06 at 1:20am

My mom and I "fight" because we're so similar in personality and we're both really stubborn. In most cases, I get stressed and she says something that ticks me off and I take it out on her. I guess I'm lucky, we rarely ever fight. I used to have really big issues with the whole concept of the parent-child relationship in general. I felt that she could say whatever she wanted to say to me, but that if I ever tried to express anything to her or, basically, call her out on anything, it would come off as me being rude. There was almost no point - it was always a lose-lose situation.

As far as my "dad" goes, that's a whole other terrible relationship that probably will never actually exist. I basically don't know the guy. He didn't stay with my mom when I was born, and I've met him around 3 times. He's basically a ****head who never calls and says he'll help out but then doesn't even help me out with college. He pretty much paid off what he had to in terms of child support and that was it.

Well, hopefully that won't totally kill the thread. It felt really good to say it, though.

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[Shiksa Goddess2]

Posted: 2/12/06 at 1:25am

Don't worry, we're all getting our family issues out- it feels good.
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[orangeskittles]

Posted: 2/12/06 at 1:28am

I think it's safe to say that everyone has parent issues to some extent.

After my mom told me on the phone last week that she was having issues with her mom, she got on my case about something else and we started to fight. It's a never-ending cycle. 30 years from now, our kids will be complaining about how much we fight with them too.

[Shiksa Goddess2]

Posted: 2/12/06 at 1:30am

Lol, yes. I hope my relationship with my kids is like the one I have with my mom- we are best friends. But, I don't even want my dad near my children, I don't trust him, I don't want them exposed to his hate.