The Official Adam Pascal Love Thread, part six — Page 98

Night, Chloe.

And I'll just echo the general "senior year = hell" sentiment. I got into really awful fights with my parents on pretty much a daily basis about everything, from stupid s**t to important decisions.

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Okay, so my dad just got mad at me for not clearing the dishwasher. I was about to do it, honestly. So then he said, "Since you didn't do it earlier, we couldn't clean the kitchen, so now you can do it." no. F*CKing. way. What he said isn't even true because he was watching a movie until about 10 minutes before I cleared the dishwasher. And the kitchen is a mess because of his stupid little party he just had. Sometimes, I would like nothing better than to punch him.

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My first full day home for break, my dad yelled at me for not emptying the dishwasher. I hadn't even USED a dish yet at home!

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Good night Elphie!

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I've been called so many things by my parents. "Smartass, Hard headed spoiled brat, selfish, you only think about yourself," etc.

I think I set myself up for it. My parents and I fight a lot, but admittedly I deserve it a lot of the time. I just can't see that at the time of the fight. Then I feel really bad later on.

I'm glad it's not both my parents, my Mom is great, but my dad stands for everything I hate. I guess I'm to blame for some of the fights (though not that particular one), but I lost all respect for him a long time ago over something he said when Matthew Shepard died, and he will never earn it back (nor has he tried).

I've never felt sorry for it- I know that's terrible, but it's the truth. If he never says sorry then I don't see the point in saying it myself, especially when I wouldn't mean it. Gosh, I sound so bitter, I just... ugh, I can't stand him, I honestly can't stand being near him.

I do regret some things I have said to my mom, but I've never had a huge fight with her. When I was little and I didn't get my way, I would call her mean and say I didn't like her- that I regret. That said- every word I've said to my dad I have meant, it's terrible.

Katt, we need to trade emotions, so I feel regret and you stop feeling bad.

Even though there are quite a few things my dad and I strongly disagree on (most of them having to do with politics), we rarely fight. Perhaps it's because we recognize that our nearly identical personalities make it truly awful when we do fight, but it's mainly that we really respect one another and understand where the other person is coming from even if we don't agree. As much as I love my mom and vice versa, however, she knows exactly how to get under my skin and has no qualms about admitting that she enjoys it. We fight a lot, sometimes about things that are a big deal but mostly about really dumb meaningless things, and it's hard to spend more than a few hours with her before an argument is provoked. The bad thing about fighting with my mom is that even when she knows I didn't mean whatever nasty things I said, she'll stay upset about them long after I've moved on and forgotten why I was even mad in the first place.

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Updated On: 2/12/06 at 01:15 AM

My mom and I "fight" because we're so similar in personality and we're both really stubborn. In most cases, I get stressed and she says something that ticks me off and I take it out on her. I guess I'm lucky, we rarely ever fight. I used to have really big issues with the whole concept of the parent-child relationship in general. I felt that she could say whatever she wanted to say to me, but that if I ever tried to express anything to her or, basically, call her out on anything, it would come off as me being rude. There was almost no point - it was always a lose-lose situation.

As far as my "dad" goes, that's a whole other terrible relationship that probably will never actually exist. I basically don't know the guy. He didn't stay with my mom when I was born, and I've met him around 3 times. He's basically a ****head who never calls and says he'll help out but then doesn't even help me out with college. He pretty much paid off what he had to in terms of child support and that was it.

Well, hopefully that won't totally kill the thread. It felt really good to say it, though.

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Updated On: 2/12/06 at 01:20 AM

I think it's safe to say that everyone has parent issues to some extent.

After my mom told me on the phone last week that she was having issues with her mom, she got on my case about something else and we started to fight. It's a never-ending cycle. 30 years from now, our kids will be complaining about how much we fight with them too.

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