The Official Adam Pascal Love Thread, part three- Page 443

[Atrias]

Posted: 12/30/05 at 1:26am

Hmmm...I'm feeling very lucky all of the sudden. My mom was bowled over with excitement to meet you, Em!

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 12/30/05 at 1:27am

Your mom was so much fun!

[wickedrentq]

Posted: 12/30/05 at 1:28am

Woah sorry I disappeared for a while, thinking up some fav Friends quotes can take up a lot of time

Em, when we discuss this you always mention your mother...what about your Dad? How would he feel about it, could you ever fathom telling him?

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 12/30/05 at 1:29am

I can fathom it even less than I can fathom telling my mother.

[Alix7272]

Posted: 12/30/05 at 1:29am

What if you told her that you met the first person somehow other than BWW, but that both this person and you post and that everyone you've met subsequently has networked off of this person - so you've known that they've all been safe. I don't know if that's worse than not telling her at all but I guess it's another option so she can at least be aware of these people and everything else.

[Fantabulous428]

Posted: 12/30/05 at 1:29am

You must just be used to it by now, but I could never not tell my mom things. I always just need to share experiences and things I've seen. But I guess that's what we're here for

[Alix7272]

Posted: 12/30/05 at 1:30am

(That first spork comment by nia is priceless!)

sorry, back to topic

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 12/30/05 at 1:33am

My mom's just... while we have an okay relationship, I've never felt comfortable "sharing" with her. Like, even after we saw Rent, I couldn't sit down and really TALK to her about it. With Brokeback, even, something that has really grabbed hold of me, I didn't feel like my mom was someone I could talk to about this movie -- sit there and dissect the experience with. She did like it, but it's kind of "yeah, it was good *clam up*" She's just not one to harp on experiences and sharing, and to really dig deep into things. She does sometimes, but it's rare.

I think a lot of my trouble is from paranoia, too. Like, even if I told her just that I post, and did something like what Alix suggested, I worry that she'd ask which my username was... and find out all kinds of crazy things. My mind runs away.

[wickedrentq]

Posted: 12/30/05 at 1:33am

Aww Atrias that was so cool that your mom brought you to Hard Rock and took a picture and stuff...I really thought that was cool of her, she prob was a little worried like most mothers would be about meeting internet "friends" but realized it meant a lot and came w/ you to see for herself, that's really a great mom. I mean, my mom was cool about it too, apparently when I first met ppl she would call my sisters panicing but never let me see it. But now she knows what an important part of my life this is and you all are and now that she sees I've made so many friends she doesn't even worry anymore, she realizes I know what I'm doing and it really must be hard to not be able to share such an important aspect of your lives w/ your families.

[orangeskittles]

Posted: 12/30/05 at 1:35am

Atrias, your mom is totally nice! It's great that she's so supportive of you. Anyone that will drive hours on end just to make sure her daugher can meet up with this motley crew you met over the internet deserves a medal.

[Fantabulous428]

Posted: 12/30/05 at 1:38am

Would your mom actually come on and look up your username?

Actually, my mom peeked over my shoulder when I used to update my livejournal. I didn't post anything especially interesting - she actually was more interested in seeing someone's journal that I was close friends with when I was younger who has changed A LOT (and had a friends only journal so you had to be logged in to view it). So one day, I came out of the shower and found her on this girl's livejournal. She didn't see me, and although it wasn't my journal, I felt totally umcomfortable about it and immediately changed my password so she could never do it again.

[Alix7272]

Posted: 12/30/05 at 1:41am

That's one awesome mom Atrias!

Would your mom get too mad if you told her that you don't want to tell her your username. (Would she be able to figure it out anyway?) You can tell her that since you've become friends with some of these people, you've had conversations like those you have with your friends that parents just aren't a part of.

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 12/30/05 at 1:46am

I wonder if I mis-estimate my mom, but I think she would certainly ask; and if not, I think she might try to figure it out.

Some day, I'll have to tell them. That statement makes me wonder how long this all will last.

I'm so morbid. Wow.

[wickedrentq]

Posted: 12/30/05 at 1:47am

Fantab, I know what you mean. The one thing I couldn't picture telling her about would be a guy/relationship thing...but that's also b/c I've never had one, just been the girl w/ all the guy friends, now more gay ones...so I feel like it would just be...everyone would make such a big deal out of it in the family and...I dunno the thought makes me uncomfortable. But everything else I tell her--all about my friends, what I do, my stories, shows i see some that I know she wouldn't b/c of maybe being too dark I'll tell her the plot, etc.

Em, I am curious, you're just dwelving a lot into your relationship w/ your mother, which makes me curious to hear about your relationship w/ your father...but you know only if you want to discuss it, I can certainly understand not wanting to discuss stupid fathers who have a sort of mental breakdown and become a totally different, stupid, selfish person so different that you go around saying your father is dead(well...evidently I don't have a problem discussing it but that's besides the point)

Atrias, how far did your mom drive you? that really was awesome of her...when I was...10/11 I had some internet friends from keyword: nick(early days of aol lol) and one had a summer house at the jersey shore so my dad drove me to her for a day and stayed w/ us, that was only 2 hours though, but still it was pretty awesome.

[Mandi Moo]

Posted: 12/30/05 at 1:48am

You really are Em. Geez.

[wickedrentq]

Posted: 12/30/05 at 1:50am

Oh one more funny story. The one time I can think of my mom actually paying attention to what I was doing on BWW was...I've already met a couple of BWWers so she knew what it was about...but I was reading posts and she came in and looked at the computer when I was reading one of Zeppie's posts and you know his icon is himself so my mom looked at the computer and goes to me "Who is that?? He's really cute." LOL.

[Fantabulous428]

Posted: 12/30/05 at 1:52am

Em! Stop it! Think happy thoughts . Or at least try.

[Alix7272]

Posted: 12/30/05 at 1:53am

It seems as though the Broadway Cares club doesn't exist this year, because I don't see it listed, which is sad, but I found this:

http://www.ithaca.edu/news/article.php?id=1678

...if you're interested

Maybe you should just do it - rip off the bandaid. Unless she really would spend the time trying to figure out who you are and you don't want that. Maybe you can show her some of the reviews and things you've written about your experiences, without showing her your username, so she can see what an outlet it is for you AND how it gives you practice writing and articulating your thoughts so there's an educational benefit too?

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 12/30/05 at 1:53am

So it goes, Mandi. I felt like once I got out of here I'd be back to my old self, but none of this is just going to up and disappear, unfortunately.

wrq, my dad and I have really similar personalities, so our fights are nasty. We're both really stubborn, so we can go weeks without speaking to each other just so as not to be the one who gives in first. My dad's a little bit more passive than my mom, but when something makes him mad, it's NOT a good thing, and he won't let it slide worth a damn. What he's strict about, he's VERY strict about. And if it's not something of major concern to him, my mother basically bullies him into siding with her -- his passive side. As far as really talking about stuff, it's even less deep than my relationship with my mom.

Part of me thinks this is WHY I've taken so well to this internet thing. Looking for conversation that I didn't get with people immediately surrounding me.

[Fantabulous428]

Posted: 12/30/05 at 1:56am

Thanks Alix. That seems really interesting.

[dancingthrulife04]

Posted: 12/30/05 at 1:57am

Adam's New year's resolution, from broadway.com:

"My resolution is to stay away from all Broadway chat rooms and message boards!!! They're deadly, and the kids are vicious."

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 12/30/05 at 1:59am

It would be much like ripping off a bandaid, Alix.

Wow, it's 2? I'm not tired anymore. This'll be one of those oddly sleepless nights.

[orangeskittles]

Posted: 12/30/05 at 1:59am

My dad knows I read the site, but I don't think he understands the concept of a message board. He would be better about it than my mom, she has visions of Lifetime TV movies dancing in her head, so that would not be a happy reaction. Even if some of the people I've met are teenage girls, YOU NEVER KNOW.

I know I was grasping for straws the day I tried to explain to my parents how I was able to get Anthony Rapp's autograph for my sister's friend, though, because that was definitely getting complicated.

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 12/30/05 at 2:01am

psh, yeah. I might rape you, skittles.

Can't you just say you met Anthony at the screening?

[Alix7272]

Posted: 12/30/05 at 2:01am

I don't really talk to my parents about deep stuff either. We get along really well for the most part and they are interested in Broadway so that's fun. But I wouldn't talk to them about personal issues with guys (not that I've really had any) or things like that or analyzing shows/movies, things like that. For example, they know how much I love Rent and things, but I've never really explained why or had a real conversation with them about analyzing something we've seen. For some reason it seems awkward and I just don't want to.

What if...you told her it was another site, like All That Chat. I don't really know of any other broadway message boards, but that would be a way of telling her about the whole internet thing without her finding you. Unless she suspects you of being someone you're not there. Or, maybe she just won't find you there because you "don't post that much" or something like that. eh, or something like that.