The Official Adam Pascal Love Thread, part three- Page 600

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 1/15/06 at 12:14am

That worked, Allie? My mom always demands detail.

[JLSatUD]

Posted: 1/15/06 at 12:14am

It's a fine line to walk. On one hand, I'm a (mostly) normal person and I'm here, so why wouldn't someone else be normal? On the other hand, I guess you never know. As wonderful as the Internet is (How did I survive before it?) it definitely added different pressures to life. I'd be ok w/ meeting people for specific things like enjoying a show none of my "real" friends wanted to see, cause it's a specific thing and in public ... but I agree with the whole online friend/real life friend boundry crossing. SOmetimes it's just nice to have people to talk to that are in no way related to the daily stresses of life. People that I went to summer camp with when I was younger were kind of my "internet friends" in high school because we all got into it pretty early, much earlier than my friends around here, (it was mega-dorky to like computers) and now years later I am much better friends with those people than the ones I graduated with.

[insomniak]

Posted: 1/15/06 at 12:15am

It's always risky. Even as an adult, you can still be hurt.

I do believe that a smart person can make good choices when it comes to meeting internet friends, though. I would never do it without validating the identity at some point first.

[JLSatUD]

Posted: 1/15/06 at 12:16am

As an adult (ack...I still don't feel like it sometimes) I would be scared to death to do something like Match or whatever. The stigma seems to be lessening a little, I knew a few people that are married to or are marrying people they met through an online dating thing but that freaks me out.

[ElphieDefiesGravity]

Posted: 1/15/06 at 12:16am

Emcee, I know! It was, like, the day before I was coming. She had talked about calling you before, but never got around to it. Then she asked you the most random things. I am personally offended that she did not care enough to check sooner. :-P But really, what could she have done? It's not like I was going to not go if she thought you were an axe murderer. And anyway, you had my sister's seal of approval, so it was all good.

[Allie]

Posted: 1/15/06 at 12:18am

My mom's not in the same city as me, Emcee, and she knows I have friends here, so I guess she just assumed it was people from school last year.

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 1/15/06 at 12:19am

Well, I like to think I'm harmless. Your mom was really nice!

[JLSatUD]

Posted: 1/15/06 at 12:20am

My mom is freaky about it. I hate using the computer at their house because she still comes in and is like "WHOOOOO ya talkin to?" And peering over my shoulder at the screen. I'm like, dude. I'm old. You know probably 2 of my friends in real life, so why would it bother you who I am talking to? No, I'm not giving out my Social Sec. Number, copies of my birth certificate or directions to my house. :)

[Billboard Girl]

Posted: 1/15/06 at 12:22am

"SOmetimes it's just nice to have people to talk to that are in no way related to the daily stresses of life."

Absolutely.

As long as you use common sense (stay in public places, trust your instincts if something feels wrong), meeting Internet friends is generally safe. Of course, my mom has read too many of the horror stories to ever believe that.

"My mom is freaky about it. I hate using the computer at their house because she still comes in and is like "WHOOOOO ya talkin to?" And peering over my shoulder at the screen."

My mom does that all.the.time. It's gotten to the point where I'm afraid to go on AIM when I'm at home because I know it will go something like this:

*Internet friend IMs me*
Mom: Who are you talking to?
Me: One of my friends.
Mom: Who?
Me: Oh, just someone from school. You wouldn't know the name.
Mom: Well, tell me about this friend. I don't like not knowing about who you're friends with.
Me: Why do you need to know who every single one of my friends is? I'm 19. I'm away at college for most of the year. I'm not a little kid anymore
Mom: I really don't like this. I'm your mother, I'm supposed to know everything that's going on with you. Are you hiding something from me?
*loud angry fighting ensues. Guilt trips and hurtful remarks are flung about. Internet friend is left wondering why I never responded to her IM*

Updated On: 1/15/06 at 12:22 AM

[Mandi Moo]

Posted: 1/15/06 at 12:22am

Wow. My parents really could care less what I do on the computer.

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 1/15/06 at 12:23am

My mom does that, JL.

[JLSatUD]

Posted: 1/15/06 at 12:24am

What really bugs me is that it's the same woman who seems to think it would be perfectly acceptable for me to "dress up a little" and go sit in a bar and meet a guy.

Hmmm...

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 1/15/06 at 12:31am

Yep, my mom also tells me I need to be "out looking."

[sweetestsiren]

Posted: 1/15/06 at 12:33am

ARGH, I hate that. It's already started that at every family gathering, I get, "So, are you dating anyone? What are you waiting for?" questions.

[ElphieDefiesGravity]

Posted: 1/15/06 at 12:35am

I love that you're all of 19, and your mother wants your married.

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 1/15/06 at 12:35am

"How are you ever going to meet straight men if you work in theatre?"

[Billboard Girl]

Posted: 1/15/06 at 12:35am

My mom's attitude towards my love life or lack thereof is so disgustingly hypocritical. She's constantly asking me if there are any cute boys in my classes or the extracurricular activities I attend and suggesting that I should pay more attention to them, flirt, focus a bit more on my appearance (apparently, I spend too much time online and not enough on my hair and makeup). Yet I know she'd go apes**t if I were to actually do anything with one of these mythical cute, straight, available boys. I still cringe at her attempt at "the talk" right before I started college.

[theatrebabe]

Posted: 1/15/06 at 12:37am

Well, my mom doesn't bu me to out looking. hehe. But she does bother me about the computer. Oy.

"What were you doing on the computer last night?"
"Talking to people."
"What sort of people? People I know, or online friends?"
"Umm....both?"
*cue zillionth lecture about how people will stalk me online.*

Does she honestly think it will set in the hundreth time???

[ElphieDefiesGravity]

Posted: 1/15/06 at 12:39am

I have never touched any makeup besides stage and clown makeup. My hair never satisfies me. I guess I'm a lost case. :-P

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 1/15/06 at 12:42am

My mom's got a friend who works at NYU, who happened to meet this guy I very, very casually knew in high school. Like, we had a mutual friend or two, he knew who I was and I knew who he was, but he was way out of my league, even for a friend. He was class president, and extremely, extremely popular, juveline as it sounds. Everybody loved him. And he's drop-dead gorgeous. Apparently it came up that they both knew me, and my mom claims this guy had been asking about me -- how I was doing, etc. She said her friend was going to give him my e-mail address, or something. I was indifferent, because he used to be so full of himself, and my mom insisted that her friend said he really wasn't anymore. It was just all so awkward.

[Shiksa Goddess2]

Posted: 1/15/06 at 12:45am

"No, I'm not giving out my Social Sec. Number, copies of my birth certificate or directions to my house."

Lol, when I was in middle school and I started going on AIM my mom thought that she actually needed to tell me not to hand out my address, SS Number, and stuff. I was like Mom, I'm not an idiot! I remember I had this friend in Florida who was 17 and we talked about all sorts of stuff having to do with theater and such, and I made sure she never found out about him.

[ElphieDefiesGravity]

Posted: 1/15/06 at 12:47am

Ugh, Emcee, that sounds horribly awkward. :-/

Alright, I need to go to slepp. I should have been in bed ages ago. 'Night!

[Fantabulous428]

Posted: 1/15/06 at 12:48am

Gnite, Elphie.

[luvtheEmcee]

Posted: 1/15/06 at 12:48am

Sweet dreams, Elphie.

[Billboard Girl]

Posted: 1/15/06 at 12:55am

Night, Elphie.

Another thing that annoys me:

My best friend happens to be male. My entire family absolutely adores him, especially my mother. Ever since she's known about him, she's been pushing me to try to build a romantic relationship from that friendship, "joking" about how she thinks I should marry him, etc. I'm not gonna lie - if I were to randomly meet him now, I would be incredibly attracted to him. However, he's too much of a friend to me, knows me too well, for me to even think of risking that for a boyfriend/girlfriend type of relationship, and the very thing that makes us such good friends - our tendency to disagree on a lot of things and have longwinded debates/arguments - would make us horrible "together." Why can't my mother respect that?