SouthernCakes said: "Well it’s coddling in the sense that he’s seemingly gotten away with it and his career is fine. Spacey not so much. But people are always looking for a way to knock a gay guy down."
To me, comparing incidents pre-internet or in the early stages of the internet's infancy to what happens today, when a person's bad behavior is all over social media for weeks and perpetuated forever in comments sections, is just comparing apples to oranges.
The Gibson stuff happened in a different era, and of course pre-Me, Too. I don't think it's about gay vs. straight. It was about an earlier media reality when, after the major media outlets stopped covering a story, it disappeared and people would forget about it, whereas that doesn't happen now. Something like Aziz Ansari's fall from grace would have never happened prior to social media and the Me, Too movement (and he's a telling case, as most people seemed to feel he wasn't the bad guy Harvey Weinstein obviously was, and that he really didn't deserve most of the attacks he got--but he's had to move from in front of the camera on his own show, which had fans who supported him, and though he's still behind the scenes, and he had one stand up special in the aftermath, he's effectively disappeared).
For what it's worth, at the time, Gibson fell, fell hard. Career seemingly over forever. But he independently produced movies with niche markets (going after the Born Again crowd first was pretty savvy), raked in millions and--again, without the constant evidence in front of people's eyes as it is today--Hollywood allowed itself to let him in again because money is king there.
But he's never become a leading man again, never regained his star status, likely never will be, and not because of his age. And you don't see much positive news about Gibson, even with his Oscar wins. Jodi Foster tried to rehabilitate him, and it didn't work (and probably helped ruin her own image). He's held at arms length, it seems to me. And I suspect if any of his projects come to fruition, there's going to be an accounting in social media, with sound clips resurfacing and the stories being retold. It's a different world.