Queer Misogyny- Page 7

[robbiej]

Posted: 5/12/06 at 2:55pm

Ginormous Vag, bway.

Drag King name for flitty?

Hmmmmm...

Dick Buttkiss?

(that's for the adults on the board)

[cheezedoodle]

Posted: 5/12/06 at 2:56pm

Jane - I totally get what you are saying, and I also believe that something should have been said to your friends. I also think that sometimes we become so comfortable in certain gatherings - especially those we connect with over vast periods of time - we take for granted the relationships we create. Maybe your friends were seeing you as "one of the guys" and did not realize that they were being offensive. I have been that way with people, not on purpose, but always apreciated being told when I have crossed a line.

[SonofMammaMiaSam]

Posted: 5/12/06 at 2:56pm

I'm offended by the term meatballs.

[bwaysinger]

Posted: 5/12/06 at 2:58pm

Did I say you were blaming us? Nope. But I also feel that it hurt you more than you're admitting if you can carry it around with you this long, ergo, you should have said something. I think, being your friends, they would have seen your point of view.

Robbie: that was it. I'll need some fashion sense from Kelen in order to get into character.
And Iflit - I mean, Dick - will look great in a three-piece suit, I think.

[lildogs]

Posted: 5/12/06 at 3:00pm

I think women who prefer gay men enjoy the acceptance from a male figure. There's no pressure to impress or seduce, and I think alot of little girls are still looking for a man to validate them for whatever reason--bad father, sh!tty boyfriend, bad marriage, etc. Just like many gay boys want the straight boys to like them to make them feel less "different."

We all want to be liked. Some of us just choose to pick friends from a certain segment of the population.

Internal rifts exist in almost every community--think of the attitudes that many African people have about African-Americans--I witnessed this firsthand with my landlady-neighbor. Or the pro-choice Catholics. Or pro-gay Republicans.

[DayDreamer]

Posted: 5/12/06 at 3:01pm

cheeze... I tend to do the same thing. Once I'm comfortable with someone, my sense of humour is quite different. People don't usually understand, and I end up having to apologize.

[doodlenyc]

Posted: 5/12/06 at 3:02pm

"straight acting"

we have to act now?

What kind of meatballs?

[colleen_lee]

Posted: 5/12/06 at 3:05pm

"I think women who prefer gay men enjoy the acceptance from a male figure. There's no pressure to impress or seduce, and I think alot of little girls are still looking for a man to validate them for whatever reason--bad father, sh!tty boyfriend, bad marriage, etc. Just like many gay boys want the straight boys to like them to make them feel less "different." "

As a hetero woman with a throng of gay male friends, I definitely agree with the above statement. I find myself drawn towards gay men primarily because I enjoy the companionship of males, but dislike much of the initial flirtations, attractions, complications that come with friendships with straight men. It seems as though every single hetero male that I befriend first has to go through this whole "should we try a romance" phase which is a bit daunting. That baggage is not there with gay men. As a result we are able to begin an open and honest friendship much more quickly than I am with straight men.

And, it also just happens that I find far more gay men that share my interests (i.e. theatre) than straight men.

Updated On: 5/12/06 at 03:05 PM

[cheezedoodle]

Posted: 5/12/06 at 3:05pm

Hey Somms - "MeatBalls!".

"It seems as though every single hetero male that I befriend first has to go through this whole "should we try a romance" phase which is a bit daunting. That baggage is not there with gay men. As a result we are able to begin an open and honest friendship much more quickly than I am with straight men."
- Exactly why I prefer Lesbians than having a "Grace". lol.

Updated On: 5/12/06 at 03:05 PM

[iflitifloat]

Posted: 5/12/06 at 3:06pm

And Iflit - I mean, Dick - will look great in a three-piece suit, I think.

Only if I can accessorize with a Jerry Garcia tie.

[bwaysinger]

Posted: 5/12/06 at 3:08pm

As long as you work that tie, Flitty, it won't matter what you wear.

[cheezedoodle]

Posted: 5/12/06 at 3:09pm

I think Randy Mantool is such a great Drag King name...moving on.

[The Grovers Corners Yenta]

Posted: 5/12/06 at 3:11pm

Misogynistic gay men should not make fun or insult those of us who have vaginas. Didn't come out of one when they were born?

[jrb_actor]

Posted: 5/12/06 at 3:14pm

"Ginormous Vag"

You know what's REALLY funny? People who THINK they are sly with an inside joke, but don't realize that the person they are making fun of knows EXACTLY what they are referring to. That's hilarious.

I know you two faggots can't comprehend my friendship with D and think it's worth mocking. Fine. You can both go f*** yourselves. C***s.

[bwaysinger]

Posted: 5/12/06 at 3:14pm

Most gay men I know were sprouted in a flowerbed of pansies, Yenta.

[cheezedoodle]

Posted: 5/12/06 at 3:14pm

Yes - but unlike straight men - we don't plan on returning to them.

[Jane2]

Posted: 5/12/06 at 3:15pm

thanks, cheeze.

singer-I'm not carrying around with me to this day, as I told you in my pm. I said I remember it to this day, as it made an impact. It's clear that you and I don't communicate well. Let's just leave it at that.

SOMMS-these are RAO's meatballs!

[bwaysinger]

Posted: 5/12/06 at 3:16pm

Woh. J, talk about not getting something. AT ALL. But then, I guess I've come to expect that from you, too.

[robbiej]

Posted: 5/12/06 at 3:16pm

OK...I'll cop to trading in misogynistic humor. How many times have I said in response to the question "You've NEVER been with a woman?"

Honey, last time I touched a vagina was 1974 when I fled my mother's.

[jrb_actor]

Posted: 5/12/06 at 3:17pm

Yes, do pretend that wasn't a reference. Go on. Act for us.

[bwaysinger]

Posted: 5/12/06 at 3:18pm

You're a wee bit angry, John, and about the wrong thing.

[Calvin]

Posted: 5/12/06 at 3:18pm

I was born like Athena.

[jrb_actor]

Posted: 5/12/06 at 3:19pm

And the Oscar race heats up. Go on--tell me that wasn't a reference to my fat best friend who has done NOTHING to either of you.

[colleen_lee]

Posted: 5/12/06 at 3:19pm

Guys, just chill. This has been a really great discussion thus far. Everyone take 5 giant steps back to your respective corners.

[cheezedoodle]

Posted: 5/12/06 at 3:19pm

Well then Athena - could you please mop up your flotsom? It's all over the freakin' floor!