Alexandra Waterbury Instagram Post — Page 2

Many of us have read the complaint, and completely disagree with your statement. It's sad that only men are defending this gross man, but that's always how it goes. Not a shocker. No one, I repeat, NO ONE has labeled him a sex offender. None of us will ever change our minds because of you or any other man on this thread, so you can just stop with the novels, no one is interested. He deserved everything he got, the comments to him online (that caused him to delete/make private all his socials), and the not to mention, the internet is forever. His lack of apology and him never taking responsibility and ignoring this controversy entirely is immature, immoral, and despicable. Any defense of him will be entirely ignored for the rest for forever.

This is about supporting Alex, if you can't do that, please don't post here.

And may I just say, f*ck that guy. Forever.

If this is about supporting Alex, then why post it on a discussion board where people will have a variety of opinions and responses? It's okay for you to have a soapbox but nobody else? It's not okay for anyone else to think differently than you? Your opinion is the be all end all?

And for those saying only men are defending Amar, what do you say to the countless women in his life and on social media who are supporting him and standing by him? I have zero personal affiliation with him, but I followed him on Instagram out of curiosity. And there are A LOT of women supporting his career, his casting in this show, and him overall.

Nobody is denying he did something stupid and inappropriate. But the unfounded and slanderous accusations of rape, being a sexual predator, and inciting a gender war are simply ludicrous.

ModernMillie3 said: "No one, I repeat, NO ONE has labeled him a sex offender."

Alexandra Waterbury in her instagram post: "You shouldn’t be on a playbill; you should be on a sex offender list."

It's in the Instagram post that this thread is supposed to be about. ModernMillie3, you seem very passionate about this, but also surprisingly unknowledgeable about the details, so I'm having trouble reconciling those two things.

SporkGoddess said: "There will always be women willing to stand by men or defend their crappy behavior. That means nothing."

Taking away agency from every woman defending him. We're not thinking for ourselves; we're just beholden to men. I guess that's one way to dismiss our opinions.

SporkGoddess said: "My understanding of the facts is that the nude photos sent by Amar Ramasar were consentually taken by not consentually distributed. No, it's technically not a sexual offense or revenge porn. But itstill reveals gross behavior that violated someone's trust, as wellas a very disgusting attitude towards women. He hasn't even apologized."

The woman whose photos he distributed declined to join AW's suit, so we have no idea whether she consented or not. I'm assuming she didn't. But we don't know.

I appreciate that you're characterizing it correctly - not illegal; just gross. This is correct. He definitely should apologize... and I assume he will, once the suit is settled, since apologizing while a lawsuit is in progress is often used as evidence during the trial.

But for something "gross"... what's the proper punishment for something gross that was done privately, for something that broke the trust and intimacy between two people but isn't actually illegal? And why is it my business at all?

“ But they have a chance to learn from it, and Amar Ramasar clearly has not.”

And you know this because....?

The problem with discussions like these as that people bend facts to fit whatever opinion they’ve already formed, or just state things as fact that are opinion.

SporkGoddess said: "there are some scholarly arguments that non-consensual image sharing should be considered a form of sexual abuse."

To be honest, I find any sharing of intimate details about sexual encounters to be pretty gross, be it images or detailed descriptions. I don't want to criminalize it, but I wish everyone - guys and girls - would be a little less forthcoming.

It's in the Instagram post that this thread is supposed to be about. ModernMillie3, you seem very passionate about this, but also surprisingly unknowledgeable about the details, so I'm having trouble reconciling those two things."

Are you? On this message board, through out all these discussions, no one has labeled him that, you know, since he isn't one. Is that more clear? I'm not referring to comments on social media when I discuss this, only what posters have stated on here. I disagree with those comments but fighting the internet is something no one should attempt.

OhBoy17 said: "Maybe the only female's opinion who matters is that of his girlfriend. Who he is still with, by the way."

Wow, is that true? I've always wondered about her, because she voluntarily didn't join AW's suit against NYCB, despite being (in theory) more harmed by Ramasar's actions than AW was, and being an actual member of NYCB (which AW is not, and has never been).

Like it or not, he's a performer and his behavior is under public scrutiny. And just because the woman in question has forgiven him doesn't mean that the public has to. We're allowed to have opinions about it, and to act on our opinions provided that our actions are legal.

And, again, not saying she or anyone else is brainwashed. I'm saying that their defending him is no proof of innocence or that his behavior was okay.

For those asking why we're so upset by this, I ask: why are you not? What is there to be gained by defending this guy?"

What is there to be gained by the endless onslaught against someone? Why does he owe YOU an apology, public figure (and let's use that term lightly) or not? What do you personally stand to gain from attempting to destroy his career? If the people for whom he works and, more importantly, the people WITH WHOM he works, are comfortable with that, then where is the problem? If you don't want to support his career, don't buy a ticket.

And, lastly, why are the people who think what he did was slimy but are willing to forgive him and allow him to move on your own personal public enemy No. 2, behind him?

My comments here have nothing to do with whether or not I think he did something wrong. They are about my inability to understand how some people refuse to see except in black and white and as a result think they are so morally above someone else. I believe cancel culture and unwillingness to accept that people can actually learn their lessons are extremely dangerous.

Is this just about being so desperate to be right that everyone else is automatically wrong? Because, frankly, that's how it sounds.

I haven’t seen anybody defend or excuse his actions. On the contrary, some people are defending him against mischaracterizations and a social media mob which has no regard for facts."

Exactly. This. All the way this.