Another stage door horror story with a forced kiss?!?- Page 3

[dramamama611]

Posted: 4/23/25 at 9:42am

I'd have edited my post but can't get to it as it the page turner post. 

 

Just wanted to add: I find this is true for all actors. The oversaturation of interviews and revealing relationships/personal experiences has gotten totally overloaded . Why do we expect that everything must be shared, can't the actors have personal memories/experiences just for themselves? 

 

The public will constantly push for more, I wish actors would just take a step back and say no. 

[BroadwayNYC2]

Posted: 4/23/25 at 9:43am

“ Perhaps posting half naked photos of himself on his instagram gave people the wrong idea!”

And perhaps posting this idiotic post gave you the impression that you have something of quality to say. 

[Bwaygurl2]

Posted: 4/23/25 at 9:58am

BringBackBirdie said: "Perhaps posting half naked photos of himself on his instagram gave people the wrong idea!"

I'm begging people to learn what consent  means 

[BringBackBirdie]

Posted: 4/23/25 at 2:03pm

BroadwayNYC2, jealous it wasn't you?

[Kad]

Posted: 4/23/25 at 2:13pm

BringBackBirdie said: "BroadwayNYC2, jealous it wasn't you?"

It doesn't matter if somebody posts shirtless or sexy photos- it doesn't matter if somebody is extremely sex-forward or even works as a type of sex worker- nothing excuses non-consensual behavior like this. How somebody presents themselves is not an invitation to be assaulted.

[Sutton Ross]

Posted: 4/23/25 at 7:27pm

BringBackBirdie said: "BroadwayNYC2, jealous it wasn't you?"

[quizking101]

Posted: 9/6/25 at 6:00pm

From Vincent Jamal Hooper’s Instagram

This happened at LION KING today. Once again, what the hell and this is why we can’t have nice things.
 

[kdogg36]

Posted: 9/6/25 at 6:30pm

I can't dream of behaving like this, but I would hesitate to compare asking for something (however inappropriate) with forcibly kissing someone without consent, as in the story that began this thread. If you ask for something, the other person can so "no" (as apparently happened here), and I fail to see what harm was done.

ETA: I don't think the actor is wrong to post this. It makes sense to say: don't even ask this, I won't be doing it. I just don't think it belongs in the same conversation as forcing yourself on someone without asking.

Updated On: 9/6/25 at 06:30 PM

[Seb28]

Posted: 9/6/25 at 7:22pm

kdogg36 said: "I can't dream of behaving like this, but I would hesitate to compare asking for something (however inappropriate) with forcibly kissing someone without consent, as in the story that began this thread. If you ask for something, the other person can so "no" (as apparently happened here), and I fail to see what harm was done.

ETA: I don't think the actor is wrong to post this. It makes sense to say: don't even ask this, I won't be doing it. I just don't think it belongs in the same conversation as forcing yourself on someone without asking."

I agree, the actor can post what he wants but in this case it should have been a matter of saying "no", and moving on. 

"Do not ask me to remove my top for a photo. It's weird and inappropriate". Yes, the question is weird and inappropriate. So just say no. Or if you really want to put someone in their place, say to the fan that the question is weird and inappropriate. Right there and then, between the 2 of you. It's nobody else's business. That's all there is to it.

You don't have to find everything flattering.

Now it's starting to feel like he wants everybody to know that someone has asked this, which makes me question if he truly didn't find it flattering.

 

[BorisTomashevsky]

Posted: 9/6/25 at 8:20pm

^^^ Exactly. If this has never happened to him before, it won’t ever happen to him again. Completely isolated incident.

Posting it online screams of a “Look at what I’ve been through! I was made to feel so uncomfortable!” victim-esque, boy who cried wolf mentality. 

To quote Patrick Bateman, “Just! Say! NO!”

[nmartin]

Posted: 9/7/25 at 9:43am

And Nancy Reagan. 

[spicemonkey]

Posted: 9/7/25 at 10:34am

I don’t think VJH is wrong for posting it at all. I fully support the performer in this case. 

the wording in the letter is more than nice enough and it calls for people’s awareness on the (increasing) inappropriate behavior at the stage door (maybe in the society in general) 

Updated On: 9/7/25 at 10:34 AM

[NotCarylChurchill2]

Posted: 9/8/25 at 9:21am

"It is extremely ignorant of you to think that no actor can build a career unless they have interactions with fans on social media. That is absurd and ridiculous"

 

No one has said that. There is no need to engage in insults and wild hyperbole.

The reality is that a lot of CDs (perhaps not within the world of Broadway but certainly in the film and TV world) do make decisions based on social media following. If an actor is astonishingly gifted and happy to work entirely within MT, they could likely have a good career without it. But realistically most young actors want and need to audition for roles across different mediums to be able to make money, and a lot of actors do want to cross into movies. Not having social media absolutely is a hindrance to that. Even when it comes to landing an agent, agents ask about social media profile.

 

And while it's lovely to learn that some Broadway shows do social media/how to deal with fans training, it is sadly not universal. My loved one has a Broadway show opening this season, it's their fourth Broadway show, and they've never received any such training or advice. When my loved one had a stalker, they consulted a legal expert in stalking and the advice given was to maintain neutral polite social media contact to avoid inflaming the stalker, we were told that blocking or ignoring could be dangerous.