Her monologue about guys not listening to her happens earlierm after Ben's "What we need is a drink" and the first Buddy/Phyllis scene.
The monologue is one of those disembodied, to-no-one-in particular dialogue moments that happened magically in the original.
All of the too-literal directors since have had the stupid notion to turn those into actual "party dialogue," delivered to another guest, making those little snippets and songs like "I'm Still Here" more "realistic" (UGH! that horrible, horrible word again).
Here's a lovely little exchange between the Whitmans, who are often cut. It encapsulates one of the major themes of the show:
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We move to EMILY
and THEODORE WHITMAN
, who are posing for a photo with WEISMAN on a flight of stairs. The Whitmans are a tiny, bright, papery couple in their seventies)
EMILY WHITMAN: We met at an audition. Teddy was a doughboy, weren't you, dear? You'd just come back from France and when we danced, my blouse kept getting stuck on all your medals.
THEODORE WHITMAN: Emmy, that's an act we did.
EMILY WHITMAN: Why, so it was. But acts are real, they happen, and I met you, didn't I?
(
And now our eyes go to another area, where WEISMAN
is talking to a beautiful young WAITRESS)