Sneaky Sister Basically Attempts to Out Me- Page 4

[ClumsyDude15]

Posted: 2/5/08 at 9:45pm

Oh Joe, your so egostical, it's almost endearing.

n69n: I am trying. I am trying.

[Greekmusicalfan]

Posted: 2/6/08 at 3:41am

I am glad you are feeling better ! Sometimes, things that look horrible in the beginning, turn out to have a really positive effect in our life ! You are growing up and taking matters in your hands and that is a good thing ! You are like a gay Elle Woods !

[AngActing]

Posted: 2/6/08 at 4:11am

Sweety, take it from someone in a different situation and quite a bit older. If your mother thinks you "chose this", she probably always will . . . still, she loves you unconditionally. She will just spend her life, as Harvey Firstein's mother; thinking, feeling that "when the right woman comes along" you will change. LOL! Yes, Harvey's mother did that . . .!!! She never believed it was born into a man, she just felt he hadn't met the right girl.

I know it for a different reason . . .as many people on this board have heard or lived.

My mother still thinks some day I will "get over" my desire to act and be on stage and get a "real job" for twenty years at one place . . . and that I will get married and "be happy". As if I am not happy as I am . . . single! LOL!

My mother, a Christian, is still convinced someone 'brainwashed' me to believe in past lives, psychics, etc. at the age of 17 and regularly has prayer vigils at her church to save my soul! I am a working Psychic/Medium and have had worked in astrology and trained as a past life guide and talk to Spirit Guides, etc.

She tries so hard to "save my soul" that most of our phone conversations turn into her quoting the same Bible stories to me over and over again . . .to the point I have to hang up and burn incense!

Thus, know they love you . . . and have a right to their beliefs and thoughts and just keep the peace as much as you can.

As for your father and the violence. Glad your aunt is accepting and you have somewhere to turn. Just know that everything happens for a reason . . . and if your father throws you out for being yourself, in the end, it is for the better. It will be his loss as you are a wonderful person; honest, caring and intelligent. Totally your father is losing a chance to know a great young man!

And as you go through life . . . and it's moments, my roommate gave me a comforting thought: Rejection is God's (or Source or the Universe's) protection.

Love and Light,
From a Psychic/Medium . . .

Updated On: 2/6/08 at 04:11 AM

[StickToPriest]

Posted: 2/6/08 at 5:36am

"If your mother thinks you "chose this", she probably always will "

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"My mother still thinks some day I will "get over" my desire to act and be on stage and get a "real job" for twenty years at one place"


Not the same thing at all. You don't really know what you're talking about. Of course his mother can learn and change.

[Wanna Be A Foster]

Posted: 2/6/08 at 6:51am

Angela, get with it.

Comparing your mother's disbelief in your abilities as a "psychic," -- something that is questionable by most of society -- to his mother's difficulty accepting him for being gay -- something that is an undeniable fact to anyone who takes the time to educate themselves -- is quite ridiculous.

Updated On: 2/6/08 at 06:51 AM

Posted: 2/6/08 at 8:23am

I think she's just equating the fact that Mom might not ever accept that part of him, but still love him anyway, just like her mom is unaccepting of her beliefs and never stops trying to change her, but loves her anyway.

[StageManager2]

Posted: 2/6/08 at 8:53am

Yeah, get with it, Foster.

[ClumsyDude15]

Posted: 2/6/08 at 1:43pm

All these posts of support and advice have made my day. From yesterday when I was an emotional wreck to today where I am fully capable of being me, and not being scared to. I am so glad to have a place such as BWW to come and garner advice from people who have been through this before and are great role models in the sense that they have come to terms with this issue in their family lives and can help the younger generation such as myself come to terms with it. I just wanted to thank all of you for the advice, the stories, everything. I'll never be able to repay you for the pearls of wisdom you have shown and given me.

I think right now, my sister is abit too immature to sit down and have a serious dicussion of that nature with, but I'll keep trying to build the bridge. As for my father, he has missed out on alot with me, he and I have never been close, and he always looked at me as I was some big dissapointment and praised my younger brother for being a sports hero, but recently my younger brother has been acting out and my father's anger and dissapointment has been more aimed at him, he is semi-quasi-proud of me for going to community college, but he has never come out and said it, but I don't need his approval, I never have and I never will, so to come out to him would be pointless, because I don't need him in my life, I don't need to please him, all I need is my support system of my friends, my aunt, my grandpa and my mother and my collection of Broadway cast albums! , that's all I'll ever need. But even if someone from that line fell apart, all I'd ever really need is the notion of loving myself for me.

My new MOTTO:

I am what I am
I am my own special creation.
So come take a look,
Give me the hook or the ovation.
It's my world that I want to take a little pride in,
My world, and it's not a place I have to hide in.
Life's not worth a damn,
'Til you can say, "Hey world, I am what I am."
I am what I am,
I don't want praise, I don't want pity.
I bang my own drum,
Some think it's noise, I think it's pretty.
And so what, if I love each feather and each spangle,
Why not try to see things from a diff'rent angle?
Your life is a sham 'til you can shout out loud
I am what I am!
I am what I am
And what I am needs no excuses.
I deal my own deck
Sometimes the ace, sometimes the deuces.
There's one life, and there's no return and no deposit;
One life, so it's time to open up your closet.
Life's not worth a damn 'til you can say,
"Hey world, I am what I am!"

[vmlinnie]

Posted: 2/6/08 at 1:48pm

How old are you? (serious question, not trying to joke).

[ClumsyDude15]

Posted: 2/6/08 at 1:51pm

haha. I'm 19.

[BkCollector]

Posted: 2/6/08 at 2:03pm

Im glad you came out of this ordeal a better person, just remember that in the end, family is all we really have, so try to keep a line open to them for when they soften up, which they will.

[ClumsyDude15]

Posted: 2/6/08 at 2:09pm

I am going to keep the line open, BKCollector.
When they come to terms with it, they will always be welcome in my life, and still are now.

[Mamie]

Posted: 2/6/08 at 2:35pm

CD - I've tried this twice and the server keeps going down when I hit the Post Message key. If it happens again - I quit...


I was just going to suggest that rather than try to talk to your little sister about your situation, why don't you talk to her instead about both of your problems - primarily with the parents? Let her know that you recognize the fact that there are times when dealing with the parents is more than any one person can stand and that when she needs someone in her corner, you'll be there for her. I remember when I was 13 there were times when I would have traded an arm to have a big brother or sister who understood those awful times. You certainly have your problems - but she probably does too and neither she nor the parents are letting you see them.

Once she understands that you're serious she'll do anything she can to protect and keep her ally.

[ClumsyDude15]

Posted: 2/6/08 at 3:00pm

Mamie--> That sounds like a great thought. I'll try that when she comes home from school later and hopefully we'll have a breakthrough.

Posted: 2/6/08 at 3:42pm

Good Luck, Dude! You've got a boardload of gay Aunts & Uncles on this board for moral support, at least!

[ClumsyDude15]

Posted: 2/6/08 at 3:48pm

"Good Luck, Dude! You've got a boardload of gay Aunts & Uncles on this board for moral support, at least!"

YAY!

[erikaamato]

Posted: 2/6/08 at 4:01pm

ClumsyDude15: I just finally read through this entire thread, and I just wanted to wish you all the best. I'm relieved for you that you have a supportive aunt you can turn to, and it sounds like your mom has the potential to come around (re: "choosing" vs. "born") one day. Regardless, she still loves you, no matter what!

GOOD LUCK!

[ClumsyDude15]

Posted: 2/6/08 at 4:10pm

erikaamato- Thank you.
I am glad aswell to have them.

[KelRel]

Posted: 2/6/08 at 5:38pm

CD, I've been reading this whole thread and I'm so happy for you to have been able to make this decision and that you have a support system in place with your aunt. Good luck and never, ever feel like you have to be afraid to be yourself. You are a great person and all of us will be here for you if you need us.

[ClumsyDude15]

Posted: 2/6/08 at 5:43pm

Thank you, KelRel!
I'm glad to have the people of BWW with me.

[singingbackup]

Posted: 2/6/08 at 11:27pm

We are a family, like a giant tree..........


We have your back CD!

[kate2]

Posted: 2/6/08 at 11:39pm

If you ever need anyone to gush over how great and good looking Cheyenne is... I'm here! congrats on finding happiness!