A social etiquette question

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A social etiquette question

Posted: 5/2/22 at 7:52pm

A friend of mine who knows I have a TDF membership asked if I wanted to see TAKE ME OUT. Of course I did. I told him I'd let him know when it showed up on TDF.

When the show appeared I called him and he replied that it was Lent and he didn't think it was a play that was appropriate to see until after Easter. (I'm not making this up--he's 64 years old!)

Right after Easter I called him about seeing the show and he said he'd been exposed to COVID and was going into isolation. I called him today about seeing the play on Wednesday and he said he has tested negative but was now trying to catch up on work. He also said that next week is out because he's seeing BIRTHDAY CANDLES.

After all these attempts, does anyone disagree with me that it's time to write him off on this one and see the play on my own?

"Long live God!" (GODSPELL)

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Posted: 5/2/22 at 7:58pm

I believe the rule of "Three strikes and you're out" would appropriately apply here.

"What- and quit show business?" - the guy shoveling elephant shit at the circus.

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Posted: 5/2/22 at 8:22pm

IronMan said: "I believe the rule of "Three strikes and you're out" would appropriately apply here."

I tend to agree with you. I also feel he'd be covering his eyes to avoid "a near occasion of sin" during some of the performance.

"Long live God!" (GODSPELL)

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Posted: 5/3/22 at 7:37am

This is why I generally see shows alone. The continual back-n-forth over a simple decision is annoying. Yeah, they get pissed when they hear I saw a certain show and didn’t asked them but I dodged the bullet. I’m now at the sweet stage of my life of “no, I’ll meet you there instead.” Thanks to this concept, I’m no longer late anywhere.

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Posted: 5/3/22 at 7:40am

Short of asking him to give YOU some dates, I don't see how you have much choice. You are running the risk of not being able to take advantage of TDF prices or missing out altogether if sales don't improve!

If we're not having fun, then why are we doing it? These are DISCUSSION boards, not mutual admiration boards. Discussion only occurs when we are willing to hear what others are thinking, regardless of whether it is alignment to our own thoughts.

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Posted: 5/3/22 at 8:14am

Dollypop said: "I called him and he replied that it was Lent and he didn't think it was a play that was appropriate to see until after Easter."

You're not, by any chance, friends with Mike Pence, are you?

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Posted: 5/3/22 at 8:26am

Your friend doesn’t want to see the show.

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Posted: 5/3/22 at 8:37am

Lot666 said: "Dollypop said: "I called him and he replied that it was Lent and he didn't think it was a play that was appropriate to see until after Easter."

You're not, by any chance, friends with Mike Pence, are you?

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LOL! NO. We met over 40 years ago doing community theater and are both practicing Catholics. My friend is obviously stuck in his elementary school mentality and frequently quotes the nuns who taught him.

I think his refusal to see the play during Lent was a bit extreme. I wouldn't dream of going to a play or movie during Holy Week but Lent is 40 days long and his reaction was excessive.

I honestly think he's AFRAID to see the play.

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"Long live God!" (GODSPELL)

Updated On: 5/3/22 at 08:37 AM

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Posted: 5/3/22 at 8:42am

I agree three strikes you're out.

Life is too short to live around other people quirks and schedules.

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Posted: 5/3/22 at 8:45am

Please go see the show by yourself, and don’t feel bad. I hate when people do that. He’s kinda being rude and inconsiderate tbh

What is cool about theater and what I love is that all of it calls for everything to work for the moment, even audiences gathering. Stuff like what your friend is doing is part of a night or afternoon at the theater, unfortunately.

so yeah, go alone. The show is great and it’ll be easier to swoon over all the guys in your own way during the nude scenes. lol

Updated On: 5/3/22 at 08:45 AM

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Posted: 5/3/22 at 9:49am

I would say that 90% of the time I go to the theater alone. I actually prefer it that way. As I live on Long Island, I load up the crock pot in the morning, travel into the city by train, grab a quick lunch at Penn Station and then see a matinee. I head home and by the time I get back, my meal in the crockpot is ready for supper.

With this guy, we have to go out for dinner after the show and the conversation is strained because he has no critical sense. He likes every show he sees and his assessment of every play is, "I really liked it." Six months later, he has no memory of even seeing the show.

"Long live God!" (GODSPELL)

Updated On: 5/3/22 at 09:49 AM

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Posted: 5/3/22 at 9:59am

Plus Ones are overrated. Not worth the hassle, especially when it's a free or heavily discounted ticket.

"Hey little girls, look at all the men in shiny shirts and no wives!" - Jackie Hoffman, Xanadu, 19 Feb 2008

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Posted: 5/3/22 at 11:05am

everythingtaboo said: "Plus Ones are overrated. Not worth the hassle, especially when it's a free or heavily discounted ticket."

How true! As I put things in black and white I realize what a drip my friend is and how burdensome our theater dates have become to me.

"Long live God!" (GODSPELL)

Updated On: 5/3/22 at 11:05 AM

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Posted: 5/3/22 at 11:28am

BrodyFosse123 said: "This is why I generally see shows alone. The continual back-n-forth over a simple decision is annoying. Yeah, they get pissed when theyhear I saw a certain show and didn’t asked them but I dodged the bullet. I’m now at the sweet stage of my life of “no, I’ll meet you there instead.” Thanks to this concept, I’m no longer late anywhere.

This. Now that I live out of state, I rarely, if ever, see shows with other people. My time in the city is limited and waiting to see if one friend wants to do something will generally mean having to say no to another, and since people rarely give a straight yes or no answer when asked, it's easier to just go alone.

I know you. I know you. I know you.

Updated On: 5/3/22 at 11:28 AM

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Posted: 5/3/22 at 11:47am

"it's easier to just go alone."

Very, very true!

"Long live God!" (GODSPELL)

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Posted: 5/3/22 at 11:58am

Totally. He had his chance, go ahead and enjoy the show!

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Posted: 5/3/22 at 12:23pm

Now I have to find a way to do this without hurting his feelings. He's not a BAD guy--just a drip.

"Long live God!" (GODSPELL)

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Posted: 5/3/22 at 12:44pm

Go see it, and don’t mention it.

it’ll be June 11th real soon.

In six months when he remembers say “oh what a shame… it was a limited run…”

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Posted: 5/3/22 at 1:44pm

I'm thinking of going the route:

"My neighbor had an extra ticket at the last minute due to COVID"

"Long live God!" (GODSPELL)

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Posted: 5/3/22 at 2:00pm

Just tell him the truth!

Or never mention it again. You’ll probably both be relieved.

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Posted: 5/3/22 at 3:15pm

On a related note, I love my now-partner of two years, but we met when theatre was dormant. Now that it's back, he wants to go with me, but then I have to work around his schedule. Can't be spontaneous anymore. Why couldn't I have met a guy who was like, "You go ahead, I'll stay home."

"Hey little girls, look at all the men in shiny shirts and no wives!" - Jackie Hoffman, Xanadu, 19 Feb 2008

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Posted: 5/3/22 at 3:45pm

Reading through these posts makes me wonder why I even bother with this guy. We have very little in common and I cringe when he posts on Facebook messages about how much he loves me. (There are many aspects of love and I never once interpreted his comments as having romantic connotations)

"Long live God!" (GODSPELL)

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Posted: 5/4/22 at 9:37pm

It turns out that today's matinee was canceled due to "technical difficulties beyond our control", so I'm glad we didn't head in to see it.

"Long live God!" (GODSPELL)

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Posted: 5/5/22 at 9:53am

Dollypop said: "He likes every show he sees and his assessment of every play is, "I really liked it." Six months later, he has no memory of even seeing the show."

ok so six months from now he won’t even remember seeing Take Me Out or asking you for TDF tix.

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Posted: 5/5/22 at 10:30am

Wick3 said: "Dollypop said: "He likes every show he sees and his assessment of every play is, "I really liked it." Six months later, he has no memory of even seeing the show."

ok so six months from now he won’t even remember seeing Take Me Out or asking you for TDF tix.

Well, he has a Roundabout subscription and many of their productions are easily forgettable! LOL!

"Long live God!" (GODSPELL)

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