Except she doesn't come out at 12. She doesn't fully realize she's gay until college. That moment (the song, my favorite) is her actual realization -- she simply "gets" that she connects with that woman, who is just "different", more like a connection or soul mate -- but without sexual/romantic feelings .
If we're not having fun, then why are we doing it?
These are DISCUSSION boards, not mutual admiration boards. Discussion only occurs when we are willing to hear what others are thinking, regardless of whether it is alignment to our own thoughts.