Mister Matt said:
But here is where he really goes off the rails, loading his theory with blanket generalizations and assumptions:
"Secondly, Kim’s suicide assumes that of course life will be better for Tam in America with his white G.I. father and his white wife than in Vietnam with his Vietnamese mother. In this reasoning, it goes without saying that life in America is superior not just economically to that in Vietnam, but in all the ways that really matter, whatever they may be. As evidenced by Thuy, the Vietnamese will be prejudiced against Tam’s bi-racial heritage while as a bi-racial Asian American, Tam will find himself accepted and cherished by all he comes into contact with in America; there Tam will never ever experience any racism like the kind he is already subject to in Vietnam (after all, Thuy, the symbol of the typical Vietnamese male, wants to kill him). Many white Americans actually believe this assumption. Of course, Asian Americans who have experienced the racism of white America have a very different take on the matter. Similarly, many Korean, Chinese and Vietnamese transracial adoptees would also question the scales which see life as an adoptee in America as far superior to what life might have been like if they had grown up in Korea, China or Vietnam."
I have issues with this paragraph too, least of which is the alternative fact that Kim and Tam would be creating a life for themselves in Vietnam when, in fact, they have been living in Thailand for most of act two.
The show itself is not declaring that life will be better for Tam in America with two white parents, but rather that Kim thinks it will be better. Nowhere does it say that Kim is correct. To the contrary, the engineer has just finished a song about how the American Dream is an empty promise, a fraud and a scam. It's all hollow and shallow. (That's why he knows he will excel there.) The show is telling us that Kim is putting her faith in a false ideal, not an ironclad, perfect one.
Immigrants have been told for years that America is the land of opportunity; here the streets are paved with gold. (As an aside, I know someone who grew up in poverty in Guatemala and had been told- through movies and the like- the streets in America were actually paved with gold. When he moved to the States later in his youth he told me he was genuinely disappointed to find out the streets were just regular pavement and felt like he had been betrayed by the movies that promised him an instant happy ending here.)
Why should Kim not believe the same thing? All she has known in Vietnam and Bangkok is war, pain, strife, forced prostitution, etc. Why wouldn't she believe that Tam could have a perfect life in America, or even just a better, easier one? The show never leads us to believe that Tam's "better life" will be fulfilled, only that Kim truly believes she's doing the best thing for her son based on her previous life experience.
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Marie: Don't be in such a hurry about that pretty little chippy in Frisco.
Tony: Eh, she's a no chip!