I think while it's tempting to try to project what's going on psychologically for individuals dealing with grief, it's probably smart not to just toss out bromides that may or may not be how a person is coping.
In this thread people have said, as if they knew, the reading was going to be a great way for Vanessa to work through her grief. It's just crazy to make assumptions like that. People are different, and what might be personally reasonable for one, may not be possible for another.
It also might be a good time to remember that the maxim that "the show must go on" is passed down from generations that were not comfortable dealing with emotions or expressing their feelings, in fact, doing so was not valued at all.
So when I read stories about how Gwen Verdon missed her own mother's funeral because THE SHOW MUST GO ON and I see how that sort of legend allegedly illustrates the dedication to her craft and all that blah-de-blah, all I really see is something that's totally effed up. Not going to her own mother's funeral BECAUSE THERE WAS A SHOW to be performed. I think it says there's a lot more going on there than we'll ever know.
There are some events through which the show can go on without a specific performer. Death of a family member is one of them.
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