I saw both Raul and DHP and was surprised but not shocked. Raul was great as Bobby, but the show and his performance were only average/above-average until we got toward the end. Yes, he was absolutely amazing in his interaction with Joanne after Ladies Who Lunch and his Being Alive gave me tingles, but before that, it wasn't exactly off-the-charts. As for Curtains, no, that's not off-the-charts either, but DHP is the glue and the heart of that show. He was funny, charming, touching and engaging. People acting like Tony-voters gave the award to some tone-deaf twit off the street is absurd. And assuming that something is lacking in DHP because he didn't bring some grand melodrama to a part that didn't call for it is equally absurd. He played the material.
No, this isn't a popularity contest but I'm sure that enters people's minds -- as does lots of other things. Will a show tour and can the adverstisement of "Tony-winning" help with that? Do we want to reward a show and need to find one of its nominated categories to choose? Do we want to add one more honor for Kander and Ebb? And, yes, the obvious -- Raul had his voting contingent and the "I'm voting for anyone affiliated with Spring Awakening" crowd was voting for Groff, so that left a split vote for DHP to emerge from. It happens all the time.
DHP was clearly shocked and very humbled by the honor. Why can't people just be happy for him, look forward to Raul's next amazing role (whatever that may be) and move on from here? (It's not like when the voting occurs the year of Raul's next nomination the behind-the-scenes thoughts won't be "well, he was amazing in Company, so we owe him now, even if _____ was also amazing this year")
"She sang each word, the angels heard ... They closed her mouth and shipped her south. The woman's done."