"I agree that a friendship could have been worth something at one point, but that its purpose can end that there is a time for some things to be over, Emcee."
That's a wise sentiment Nia. I know it's really hard for some people to let go, but sometimes a relationship just deteriorates to a point that it's not worth it anymore. People who can't let go are the ones often plunged into abusive friendships, or worse relationships...like my sister.
And unfortunately, every friendship is worth something, but not necessarily in a fond way. I've had many "friends" who the best thing I got out of it is learning not to be friends with bitches. Still, it's something, I wouldn't call the experiences worthless.
Sorry lots of pages to catch up on...
Em, what year did you take the Physics regents? I took it senior year, I think I might have been the 2nd year of the new one?
I agree regents seem so pointless, especially when you're in AP courses and you've spent the whole year preparing for that. I think it was my physics regents where there was one question I was stuck on for 20 minutes...until I finally realized the answer was in the friggin reference table! Our AP one wasn't as detailed at all; it's just frustrating.
Siamese, remember there's always more than meets the eye. I just wrote a paper on female aggression, and a big part of it is that it goes on under adults' noses--"what could seem like two close friends playing in a corner could be one wearing the other down." I don't think it's so much a transitional point for friendship, as it is a slightly rough and analytical time. College is definitely, but high school can just be hard.
Besides, I think you should be thrilled to not be in a group--you're a floater, and cliques won't affect you so much.
I was kind of in a trio that worked in High School. I'm not sure why. We hung out with each other more than anyone in high school...but we all had other close friends either in or out of school, maybe that was a part of it? And I at least learned to understand the dynamics. Like I would feel left out sometimes...they would go to warped tour and not invite me. But then I had to realize, why would they invite me?? I don't know anything about these bands or care to go. So it became more of an acknowledgement of our differences than me feeling personally left out.
(Again, sorry just a lot of different things I want to reply to)
Distant relationships are tricky too. Obviously, it's sad, and there's not much you can do if someone doesn't reply to an e-mail or to you at all. But I think difficult times is really how you measure your friends...and those who are not there for you just don't become worth your effort. Like a close friend of mine who like...never calls me or makes seemingly much effort to preserve the friendship called me everyday for a week after I told her my parents were getting divorced.
There's a lot of acceptance and compromise involved, and obviously there's not much to do if the other person is completely unresponsive. But I've learned that my friendships breed different things--some people I talk to but rarely make an effort to see me if they're home. Others I see, talk to, maybe once or twice a year, and of course at one point in the convo, geez when was the last time we talked? I have to tell you like 6 months worth of stuff, but we do. There just has to be a big adjustment between seeing each other every day and knowing every detail of one's life, and accepting a new kind of friendship where you talk once in a while about a lot of things, and still know the other person cares, etc.
Okay, that may just be enough for now
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