bwayrose7 - You hit the nail on that head with that post, and that's exactly how people should be.
Aside from the PSAs that are scheduled to run, there is no plan to say how Finn died. I personally think that's much better of a way to handle it, because their original plan to have it be about a drug overdose was a terrible idea. I'm not saying I agree with the way they are doing the episode - me personally, I wanted them to give Finn a happy ending - have him found his true calling in life off screen, and maybe have Lea (if she did indeed leave the show or need time to do so) have Rachel get Fanny Brice and do an out of town pre-Broadway engagement of Funny Girl that way the door could be open for her to return if she wanted.
Cory was an original cast member of the show and had been with the show since day one, and despite what his poor life choices cost him, he was a human being. Whether you were a fan of his or the show or not, respecting his life and the way in which the people grieve him is something you should do in the long run. What Glee chooses to do was run by Lea Michele the entire time, and obviously, the rest of the cast I'm sure had some say in the matter. It was their choice to do this, to say goodbye to their friend and cast mate.
"Anybody that goes to the theater, I think we’re all misfits, so we ended up on stage or in the audience.” --- Patti LuPone.