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Kurt LOVES playing the victim though. When Kurt's father bonds with Finn, Kurt is the victim whose father prefers a more stereotypically masculine son. When Finn rejects his romantic advances and even confronts him about how he's been essentially stalking him, Finn is homophobic and Kurt is the victim of homophobia. When Kurt gets caught with another boy, he is the victim of a father who is heterosexual and doesn't understand gay relationships or sex. When Mercedes gets upset that Kurt is ditching her for Blaine, Kurt is the victim of a jealous friend who wants what he has. I'm not saying Kurt likes being pushed against lockers, but he loves playing the homophobia card. He's like the gay equivalent of Uncle Leo from Seinfeld who always called people anti-Semites. "
Oh I certainly don't disagree that Kurt can fall pretty easily into playing the victim- though I think MOST of the time it's with his dad, and I like to think that's probably because he knows his dad will (and has, on multiple occasions) call him out on :) I dunno... I know I have a tendency to get more playing-the-victim-y with the people I trust deep down will call me out when I go there, you know what I mean? It's like when you're in denial about something, it's not that easy to get to the heart of what's REALLY bothering you, so it's easier to fall into playing the victim with someone you trust and let THEM say "don't go there- what's this really about?". So I really get that.
The whole Finn situation (including the aftermath of it) was a good example of that actually. He was in denial about it, for sure, and did need to be called out. I mean I personally sympathized with Kurt in that whole situation as well as Finn because it wasn't like Kurt ever meant any intentional harm to Finn- he was really lonely and had an intense crush and went too far with it. He needed to cool it, for sure, but I think the way Finn approached it in Duets was also kind of over exaggerating considering once Finn DID actually ask him to back off. But anyway, once again Burt was the one who got through to him because he called him out on the denial/playing the victim and then they were able to get to the heart of the matter- which was that he was really lonely. And once they worked that out, Kurt grew a lot in that episode :)
With the situation with Blaine sleeping in the same bed, I actually thought Kurt had a fair point there but that's just me haha. Not that Burt was being homophobic, but I think Kurt was just questioning if he might have been adhering to a bit of a double standard, considering they'd legitimately done nothing of any kind of sexual nature. And hey, when Kurt was actually laying there making out with Brittany, all Burt said was "use protection", so I do think it was a fair question as to why sharing the bed in itself should be considered "inappropriate".
So yeah, I don't totally disagree- he can be a bratty teenager who plays the victim sometimes, absolutely. I guess I just usually end up sympathizing with him anyway though because there's pretty much always something deeper going on there, and Burt usually has a way of getting to it and then they have a heart to heart and it's all good and he matures :P haha
With Mercedes, he was just being a lousy friend (as people can tend to do when they get into a new exciting relationship) and I do actually wish Mercedes had called him on it haha
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I've never seen layers behind his "bitchy diva" persona. I've seen someone who consistently acts awful to people and cries homophobia whenever he doesn't get what he wants. I don't understand how anyone can like Kurt after what he did to so many people on the show (i.e. Rachel and Finn). "
All the characters on the show have done selfish/bratty/mean things though... actually, in the grand scheme of things, I'd say Kurt is probably one of the lesser offenders! haha. At least in general he doesn't usually MEAN to be awful to anyone. There was the Rachel set up in Hairography, but other than that it's been pretty much just innocent mistakes. Mistakes that he needed to learn from, absolutely, but mistakes, you know? He's very rarely deliberately cruel. And I just really connect with Chris's acting.. even when there's no doubt he's being a brat or whatever, I pretty much always end up feeling for him anyway because Chris is, to me, really great about adding that layer of depth there that shows you he's really hurting.
I just think that SOOOO many of the other characters have done
far more deliberately hurtful things to other people, so I don't get why it's Kurt who gets so much of the hate.
But I do agree that there are times when he's put up on too much of a pedestal, for sure. And it's silly because I LIKE that he has flaws! That's what makes him so sympathetic to me- not that he's perfect, but that he's not but is well fleshed out enough for me to understand where he's coming from and why he makes the mistakes he makes. So when they go overboard with the Kurt praise like in certain parts of the Furt episode, it's just totally unnecessary to me. No need to make him out to be a saint when what makes him so engaging as a character (for me anyway) is that he's not :)
But yeah, I do think it goes deeper than that he just "cries homophobia when he doesn't get his way". And again, I think a lot of that depth isn't necessarily as much spoken as it is in the way Chris portrays it.
Ok, I'm done rambling about Kurt, I promise haha
I don't need a life that's normal. That's way too far away. But something next to normal would be okay. Something next to normal is what I'd like to try. Close enough to normal to get by.
Updated On: 3/18/11 at 11:32 PM