To be entirely honest, ArtMan, I was mortified, beat-red, and very upset. I'm 29, was by myself, and felt incredibly uncomfortable. She got so loud when I asked her to put her phone away that actors on stage were looking over at us. I was mortified and didn't want to draw any more attention away from the stage and to us.
What was so troubling about it wasn't her initial response, but the continued behavior. Constantly turning around to whisper she was gonna "get" me", telling me I better run when the show was over, flipping me the bird over her shoulder, leaning to her friends and whispering "I'm gonna beat the sh*t out of that fag". It was really just out of control.
While you're right, I probably should've demanded that they called the police, between being embarrassed (I go to theatre at least 5x a week and nothing like this has ever happened to me) and being frightened that it was them against me, I just sat in my seat and took it. What I don't understand is why the house manager and security team didn't call the police. Once the people next to and behind me confirmed that she threatened to kill, shoot and hit me, that should've been their next course of action. But instead they said they'd be right in the corner under the right box, watching, and ready to intervene. They stood there for the first song and then I watched them walk away. That's when she started again. By that point, there was 30 minutes left in the show and I didn't want to disturb the other people around me - who had been disturbed enough - anymore.
And ljay, I agree with you that I should've been better prepared for the consequences. But why shouldn't we be allowed to ask people to turn off their phones, or take off their hats, or stop talking? At these prices, there's just no excuse for putting up with that kind of BS.
"I know now that theatre saved my life." - Susan Stroman