'rate the film on 3 levels, and I hope the rest of you can to:
1. As I feel about it as a gay man--the personal stuff that is probably unfair to place on the film's shoulders
2. As how I rate the film strictly artistically
3. As I feel the film fits into the politically landscape '
I think that's a great way to view this film...I just want to point out that it's possible to rate all of these things and still have a completely different opinion about them than most others. Much of what some of us are reacting to is not the films itself (although I still don't think it was particularly well made...too schematic for me...though pretty terrific performances), but the reaction to the film and the very real pressure some have been getting from others. Being told I'm heartless because I didn't like the movie is truly insulting. To say that, politically, I think the film isn't the huge step forward because it shows characters that are still victims...people to be pitied, instead of characters with strength...is being reacted to as if it's a heretical treatise. The fact that someone is killed in a gay bashing doesn't bother me in the least...the fact that both characters are weak bothers me.
As Jerby said, 'All art is political.' So, I really do think it's either naive or disingenuous to claim that these people had NO thought of politics in their minds while making this movie. Lee (and everyone else involved) is too smart to think this film wouldn't be used politically.
Because of what I perceive to be the artistic failing of this film (too schematic), I never felt the real, true love bond between these two men. I would have loved a scene of true intimacy...meaning hand-holding or something similarly simple, but powerful. But I never felt like I got that. Which would be fine, IF there were many more representations of gay men and women who do share that intimacy. That's the whole problem...we don't have the negative (in photographic terms) image of this movie out there as well. Everyone compares it to great doomed love stories like R&J and TITANIC and LOVE STORY. But the problem with that is, for every one of those, there's a WHEN HARRY MET SALLY, PRETTY WOMAN and WHAT'S UP, DOC?...delicious romantic comedies that give us another view of love and relationships. They exist together. Right now, BBM exists in a vacuum (sp?). It's THE representation of gay love to mainstream America.
Yes...I live in hope that it will change and BBM will soon co-exist w/ thrillers, romantic comedies, family movies and actions movies that prominently feature gay lead characters. And I'm grateful for this film's ability to spark a discussion. THAT is it's importance. The film will not change many hearts and minds. But honest discussion that comes about because of it may very well.
"I'm so looking forward to a time when all the Reagan Democrats are dead."