*so no room to add into the hugs so just jumps on everyone w/ a hug*
Well, at first I started thinking about ways to play psychologist for each situation, but...if I really wanted to help...I'm not a psychologist so...yeah.
Remember that you always have a wonderful loving family right here
But...I'll try to play a little devil's advocate...go back to the feelings of a younger sis whose siblings went off and try to understand parents...it sounds like a lot of them haven't completely gotten over you leaving--growing up, becoming a diff. person, etc. Empty nest syndrome. They miss you terribly, and then can't wait for you to come home but they remember the old you, want it to be the same, and naturally it isn't, you're a diff person and they resent that b/c you're not their "baby" anymore and it means they're getting over the hill. Which perfectly explains Skittles accurate statement of either feeling like an unwanted guest or like they want her to be her old self...
From a younger sibling perspective, that's doubly hard. My prob was my oldest sister totally regressed when she came home, but my middle sister didn't, and I always got mad when she'd come home and not want to spend time w/ me. And I guess everyone has issues w/ the how am I supposed to relate to and deal w/ this new person etc?
It's a tricky situation but as you guys can see, is a pretty normal reaction. I'm not quite sure what I can suggest. I mean, if you could try integrating your family more into your life, have them visit you at school, tell them more about friends(well I know that's a problem we've discussed), but ya know things like that they'll feel a more part of your life and maybe more prepared for you to come home a different person? Maybe interacting w/ them not in the house can be a positive too since you all seem to not like being in your houses. Or I mean if it's at all possible you would think to have an honest, rational discussion where everyone can get their feelings out w/o blowing up...maybe if they're in a good mood or maybe if you're in the process of doing something for them?
Whatever the fact remains...you could feel uncomfortable at home, friends can change, etc...but you can't change your family. You want them to accept you for who you are, and that needs to be a two-way street, you need to accept them. And doing everything you can to never be home won't really solve the problem, b/c...they're your family. If you could somehow work to working through issues instead of running, you'd be better off.
And let me preface this by saying I'm not saying you all don't accept your parents or that you haven't tried talking or are running away, etc. I really don't know enough about the situation to judge that but well I'm playing devil's advocate and just trying to see their side of the story as much as possible, just considering all possibilities that could be occuring to cause problems.
Anyway, I know how stressful school is and it does really suck that things get more stressful now. Listen to some showtunes, always cheers me up!
And please forgive me for playing psychologist, I have issues w/ that(ha-ha)
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