New here, but here is my two cents on the whole situation:
Who's fault is it that none of the boys up on stage have the ability to act like men? I took my friend to see Hairspray, and Mamma Mia recently and she walked out and said she loved both but had no clue why all the boys were acting like girls (and at one point a certain chorus boy in Mamma Mia, kept posing ala Madonna and he didnt think anyone was watching... tragic.
And that begs the question... how does a casting director or director say... please butch it up, he's more manly then you're playing it? with out offending SOMEONE?
I dont think a gay guy should be offended if his director tells him to butch it up. Just like a straight actor when playing a gay role is not offended when told to act a little more forward and flamboyant. A gay actor (and there are plenty that are not guilty of this, so please forgive) should also know themselves well enough to know that they need to step out of the person they are in real life, just like an American Actor playing an Englishman, or vice versa. Just remember, not every show is La Cage.
Whatever.. there are plenty of hot, gay actors who can play straight and there are plenty of hot little gay boys who like to twirl and dance, and I thank the higher power for all of them... well most.
"Tracy Turnblad's a tramp and she's retarded. That's right, she's fast AND slow at the same time."