The Gay Film That Changed Your Life — Page 2

A TV movie from the 1980s about a Scottish mother raising two sons on her own. Much of the film focused on the older son getting into trouble, whilst a sub-plot had the younger son coming to terms with being gay.

I can't remember the film's title but I can definitely remember the scenes of the younger son, who played for the local rugby team, and his team-mates in the changing room and the communal rugby bath. It was the first time I experienced lightning-in-the-loins lust, and that long before rugby acquired the homoerotic reputation it has now.

Namo...thanks for posting that link. It was nice way to start my Sunday morning.

I guess I knew that nearly the entire cast is now gone...but it was sort of shocking to see how young so many of them were when they passed.

"Who do you have to f#ck to get a drink around here?"

Has to be one the most quoted lines from any movie. Whether people know they are quoting it or not.

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I was at a press luncheon for Harvey before Torch Song Trilogy was released and most of the people covering it were interested in the Matthew Broderick kiss, but I could've spent significant time asking Harvey what it was like kissing Brian Kerwin. I'm glad I didn't because I would have looked like Harvey later looked as Edna asking Tracy if fame was everything she hoped it would be.

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I stumbled on a TV broadcast on Channel 9 of "The Naked Civil Servant" when I was 14, a very important moment in my life when I needed to have my femmephobia challenged.

Also, "Querelle." And "El Paso Wrecking Corp."

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Updated On: 3/18/12 at 02:26 PM

I guess I would have to say

Auntie Mame
All About Eve
A Star Is Born
The Women

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I think we have moved past the idea that Boys in the Band is somehow insulting. A friend of mine was in a stage production a few years back and I took the guy I was dating at the time to see it and he couldn't get over how much of it was still relevent.

If we're speaking of that genre...then BOYS IN THE SAND. Cal Culver/Casey Donovan ... be still my heart. At one time in my life I had the 8mm film and the projector to go with it!

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Updated On: 3/18/12 at 04:50 PM

For anyone interested in THE BOYS IN THE BAND, I highly recommend the documentary MAKING THE BOYS. It's available instantly on Netflix. More than just a documentary on the evolution of the play and movie, it's a snapshot of gay life in the 60's and 70's, and includes some great archival footage.





MAKING THE BOYS

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Updated On: 3/18/12 at 06:19 PM

Okay, spot quiz: What's more boring than a queen doing a Judy Garland imitation?

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You mean JohnBoy2 doing a Julie Andrews imitation...

Sleep! Sleep! I couldn't sleep tonight! Not for all the jew-els in the world...!

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Strangely, I just watched Boys in the Band this weekend as well. A friend had never seen it, I had just bought it, so we had a viewing party. Right up until the end (Michael's marevlously histrionic meltdown), my friends and I just kept saying 'SH*T don't CHANGE!' I kinda love the movie. I love the way Friedkin shot the whole thing...the amazingly bizarre performances...that fabulous apartment.

I guess the movie that changed me forever was Longtime Companion. The moment Fuzzy turned to the camera and started lipsynching DREAMGIRLS was the first time I ever knew that who I was was ok. It was an amazing piece of validation. And it's probably solidified my attraction to a certain class of men served by the website Scruff.

The moment Fuzzy turned to the camera and started lipsynching DREAMGIRLS was the first time I ever knew that who I was was ok.

I cannot think of that film without immediately recalling that wonderful scene. Imagine how thrilled I was to see Stephen Caffrey (Fuzzy) play Steve in Jeffrey in San Francisco just a few years later. Bliss!

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i also adore (somewhat guiltily) OBJECT OF AFFECTION and with pride, the HBO version of ANGELS IN AMERICA. As to Koestenbaum, he is as charming in person as he is in print...if you can see him speak live, avail yourself. He's also very agressive and flirty and we had a great time. His book THE QUEEN'S THROAT is incredible in how through the subjective lens of his own preferences, he is able to say to much in objectivity about the sociology of gay men and opera...and the infamous correlation of leathermen and Opera Queens.

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Updated On: 3/19/12 at 02:29 PM