wonderfulwizard11 said: "Went to see this tonight- spoilers below for those who care or haven't seen it.
Prior to tonight, I had heard very little about this show, but I knew that the title character dealt with social anxiety and that got me very interested in the show. I've dealt with social anxiety for a number of years now, and while it's not as debilitating as Evan's is (and truthfully, es excellent as Platt is, all the tics felt excessive in a sort of performative way), I was very intrigued to see a musical that deal with it. Curiously, I don't think I've ever had a more puzzled reaction to a show. There's some great work being done by the cast, especially from Rachel Bay Jones and Jennifer Laura Thompson, and I cried a few times, but ultimately I was kind of upset with how the show addresses suicide and mental illness.
The premise of the plot was almost completely unbelievable to me, though apparently it was based off of a real incident, so I guess I can give it a pass, even if I never really bought that everyone would so easily fall for Evan's lie. But I just cannot get over that Evan suffers virtually no retribution for his actions. While it's arguable that his intentions start off as noble, he ends up using the memory of a severely troubled kid in order to make friends, get a surrogate family, and worst of all, start dating the sister of the the same person who killed himself. I guess his social anxiety is supposed to excuse his actions to a certain point, but it is on a core level a pretty terrible thing to do. Certainly, the character knows this, but when he finally tells the truth...nothing happens! Yes, the family first gets angry with him, but that initial shock and anger (which was devastating) is all that we see. I'm not saying everything needs to be so cut and dry, but it left a sour taste in my mouth that the character basically is allowed to get away scot free with the fact that he used the memory of a dead kid for his own purposes. Not to mention, as the show progresses, Evan seems to get over his social anxiety as the lie grows bigger, so I guess he got very lucky that Connor decided to kill himself so he could learn a lesson? Connor is a barely developed character in the show, and that must have been a conscious choice, since if he were given any more of a personality I think what Evan does would be even more distasteful. As currently written, he's barely a person, so the awfulness of what Evan has done doesn't really take hold.
I also took issue with the brief epilogue that showed that Connor's family is more or less comforted by Evan's lies. I won't speak for everyone who has lost someone to suicide, but to me it felt like Evan's lies gave them an easy way to forget the complicated and troubled son they actually had, and ended up being an erasure of his clear mental illness. I'm not saying it's something that you wouldn't want to do after that experience, but it struck me as wrongheaded.
I give the show tremendous amounts of credit for tackling a difficult subject, and I don't mean to say the show isn't worth seeing whatsoever. But overall, I was tremendously disappointed, and I wanted so badly to love this.
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SPOILER ALERT
While I see where you are coming from, I feel you miss something like I did the first time seeing the show. Or maybe not. DEH is more about the growth of Evan's character and ultimately his self-salvation than merely someone who takes advantage of someone else's tragedy. I still can't believe how I missed it the first time, but from my second time of seeing DEH, it is heavily hinted towards the end of the second act that Evan broke him arm because he consciously chose to let go, namely to commit suicide. Unlike Connor, however, he survived. The show, then, is actually following his journey of how the accident helps him find his place in his community and who he really is, and combat the loneliness so suffocating that he wants to kill himself. If you look back this way, you might not want him to suffer miserably for what he's done. I know personally what it feels like to be the person who basically has no friends and finds his life a prison where the only way to break through is to leave it all behind. The ending is one of the most beautiful parts of the show. I bursted into tears when Evan says he wants outsiders like him and Connor who one day come to the orchard and climb the trees not to let go but instead keep climbing until they can see what the world might look like from up so high. Connor's death gives Evan the chance to see what the world might look like there, and the view saves him.
Updated On: 5/7/16 at 12:54 AM