I'm in that sliver of the theatergoing public that doesn't find stagedoor behavior Exhibit A in measuring an actor's generosity of spirit or even attitude toward a fan base. We live in a post-Covid world, and intimate contact with anyone is a personal decision. But even before the pandemic, pausing at a stage door is not required to serve a show or embrace its admirers. Terse, perfunctory exchanges can happen when actors have reason to rush on. They do, as everyone does leaving a workplace. (And let's remember: that's what it is.) They're not obligated to do anything but the performance. After 20 years on this site, I'm still baffled by the sense of entitlement that infects otherwise normie theater audience members.
"I'm a comedian, but in my spare time, things bother me." Garry Shandling