OhHiii, I mostly agree that response. I just don't buy the concept of "microaggresions." That's the bottom line. I understand this is an approach to discourse many embrace. I'm not one of them.
What I see in both Keisha's inital reponse and the more intense commentors here is an insistence that if something is felt to be true, then it is true. I don't agree with that reasoning. I can understand the life experience of racism that causes a person to be triggered even in an instance where racism was not in fact the motivation. I can't take the next step and say, "If they feel it was racist, even though the evidence to me points to something, then I guess it was racist after all." It's a bridge too far for me.
I don't say that out of callousness towards suffering or pretence that racism doesn't exist. But as I know from experience as a gay man that, while I've certainly faced a whole lot of homophobia in my life, there have been times where I imputed homophobia to people where it in fact was not present. I don't think I get to call non-homophobes homophobic just because I had a feeling (and "I know from lived experience what homophobia is" hasn't stopped me, on some occasions for being, simply, wrong). And I'm not going to call someone racist if, when Iook at their personality and pattern of behavior, I don't see racist intent.
If people say, "This offended me. You don't see it as offense, but I do," I can respect their feelings. When I'm told I'm cluess, hateful or part of the problem because I don't read the situation in the same way, or that not agreeing with their interpretation is itself is a treat to them or makes this an unsafe space, I tune out.
Updated On: 5/30/25 at 12:19 PM