PEACE for iflitifloat - Rest in Peace, dear friend- Page 5

[son_of_a_gunn_25]

Posted: 10/27/10 at 11:21pm

I hope you enjoy as much peace in your life as possible in spite of this second fight with cancer iflit. You are in my thoughts too.

[iflitifloat]

Posted: 10/28/10 at 12:41am

Wow! How nice to "see" you, Son! Thanks for the good wishes AND for my current icon. You made it for me years ago and I still love it.

Just an update...saw the oncologist today and there are quite a few treatment options available (many of which don't involve me going bald again!!!) I have to do more testing to determine what will be the most appropriate, and while there are no permanent cures, there's no reason to not believe I have a solid chunk of quality time left and open ended future.

And again, I can't tell you how much I appreciate the love, affection, and support that you've all shown me in this thread. I'm a bit embarrassed...feel like a bit of an attention hog...but I'd be lying if I didn't admit that it boosted my spirits through a rough few days.

[metaphorical]

Posted: 10/28/10 at 1:01am

When you’re the husband of a woman who’s been given bad news of a certain sort, it’s hard not to reflect, Oliver Barrett-like, about your Jenny. But Oliver gets it wrong.

He left out the way she gets more and more beautiful, as if this disease’s consequences were the devil’s due after bestowing his gifts: a golden violin of courage loud enough to chase away the spectre that stalks all living things; an iron-hard hammer of black humor (“At least if Sarah Palin is the next president, it’s not my problem”); eyes that have never felt bound by a single color, now and then a little more green, a little more brown; and a silver-blonde-gray-brown head of hair spun so fine it’s as if she were lent Rupunzel as part of the deal.

She was sitting on the couch when I got home, the brown and red and green couch we bought in laughter and hope five years ago, before the first bout, when Manhattan was new and the future flowed seaward like the river we eagerly crossed.

Those eyes were water-logged now, soggy autumnal leaves in a pool left by heavy rains that fell before I got home. They looked up at me. “I’m sorry I’m not stronger,” she said, her voice as soft as her hair. She’s the strongest person I know, I wanted to tell her, but she wouldn’t have believed me so instead I took her in my arms, and it brushed against my dry cheek, and I could feel each plait, soft as mohair yarn, more beautiful than the thick dye-filled ruddy orange waves she once cried to part with, before finally offering it to the disease in a Faustian bargain irrevocably broken by yesterday afternoon’s news.

And so, today, again, we sat in the doctor’s office, three years after the last time we sat in those chairs, too high they still were, too hard, too curved for us to sit hand in hand as she readied herself for another round—Faust asking not for more time but for more strength, strength to work, strength for her children, strength to not weep in my arms lest her hair matte on my dry cheek and I wished I could tell her to be strong for everyone else but let me hold you up as we sit on that couch that must never lose its laughter and hope or else why did we move... why do we ever move at all?

[PalJoey]

Posted: 10/28/10 at 1:06am

Now, that's a love story.

Peace for iflitifloat and for the husband of iflitifloat.

[NYadgal]

Posted: 10/28/10 at 4:22am

That's beautiful.

Much peace to iflit - and all who love her.

[Weez]

Posted: 10/28/10 at 5:34am

Damn, I've been out of the loop. Peace, love, and prayers for you, iflit. *hugs*

[SueleenGay]

Posted: 10/28/10 at 7:03am

Here you go, Bitch, now make some fukcing lemonade.


P.S. Hey, Meta, so you're a righter, TO?

[SueleenGay]

Posted: 10/28/10 at 7:08am

And while you're at it, go spin on this!

[Bluemoon]

Posted: 10/28/10 at 8:00am

The nice thing about those dimes is that they can turn both ways. Here's to a good turn!

[iflitifloat]

Posted: 10/28/10 at 11:26am

So much for my complaints that I am never the muse for his "fancy" writing...I am lucky and blessed in a thousand ways and I thank my husband for being publicly mushy. He's a keeper.

Now back to the kitchen. I'm making lemonade because that bitch Sueleen is coming over for snacks.

[Phyllis Rogers Stone]

Posted: 10/28/10 at 11:47am

Hide the silver!

[JerseyGirl2]

Posted: 10/28/10 at 12:01pm

...and prescriptions.

[D2]

Posted: 10/28/10 at 12:06pm

You're in my thoughts and prayers daily, iflit.

[Broadwayboobs]

Posted: 10/28/10 at 12:11pm

Flitty, I hope you put the plastic on the couch for Sueleen's visit.

[Q]

Posted: 10/28/10 at 1:49pm

"there's no reason to not believe I have a solid chunk of quality time left and open ended future."

Between that and Meta's post, I am officially undone.

Loving you and feeling the peace.

[NYadgal]

Posted: 10/28/10 at 1:58pm

More public mush.

[Borstalboy]

Posted: 10/28/10 at 2:01pm

Adding my thoughts and prayers to a wonderful lady.

[Q]

Posted: 10/28/10 at 2:02pm

Imagine Whirled Mushy Peas . . .

[sabrelady]

Posted: 10/28/10 at 3:31pm

If we are doing medical humor-
(WARNING graphic content!!)

Ortho Vs Anaethesia Updated On: 10/28/10 at 03:31 PM

[iflitifloat]

Posted: 10/28/10 at 4:09pm

Oh, NO! Graphic medical humor and I can't get the link to open!!!

[iflitifloat]

Posted: 10/28/10 at 4:09pm

Oh, NO! Graphic medical humor and I can't get the link to open!!!

[sabrelady]

Posted: 10/28/10 at 4:39pm

ARRRGGGHH!!
I think I fixed it- try now

[kc2]

Posted: 10/28/10 at 4:43pm

I seldom post but read daily so I hope it's not inappropriate for me to add my well wishes.

Such a heart-warming thread.

[NYadgal]

Posted: 10/28/10 at 4:59pm

Adding support and well wishes is never inappropriate!

So glad you 'joined in'.

I believe in the additive nature of happiness. The more there is, the more we're capable of.

Updated On: 10/28/10 at 04:59 PM

[sabrelady]

Posted: 10/28/10 at 5:23pm

The Amatuer Transplants version of a Dear Doctor letter
Please Angela