I've refrained from commenting on this for a variety of reasons, and this is likely the only thing I'll say:
MosaicOwl (and your family), I'm very sorry for your loss. I'm sure it's difficult enough to lose someone unexpectedly, yet alone under these unique circumstances. I hope that you, and all that loved Jeff, are able to find peace.
If we're not having fun, then why are we doing it?
These are DISCUSSION boards, not mutual admiration boards. Discussion only occurs when we are willing to hear what others are thinking, regardless of whether it is alignment to our own thoughts.