I've been going through my own personal hell for the past two years, but NOTHING compared to what Rachel was going through. And yet she gave me support, guidance, empathy and strength. She would say, "I know exactly what you're going through, Christine, and it's painful." Then she would share personal experiences that she felt would help me.
This, to me, is the epitome of love. Her friendship and encouragement helped me more than I can say. While other friends pretty much backed away, Rachel gave more of herself. I would say, "My problems are so petty compared to the crap you're dealing with!" But she would assure me that we are all part of the same human experience and that "Pain is pain...and it's real."
I realized that rather than considering my issues trivial, Rachel was doing one of the things that gave her a true sense of fulfillment: "being there." She had so much love to give, and she was generous beyond words. A sparkling spirit...then, now, always.
I posted the following on FB. Rather than try to say the same things in a slightly different way, I am simply going to copy it here.
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Rachel was, and always will be, a truly magnificent human being. She was as eloquent as she was compassionate and wise. Her insights were unmistakable in their depth, originality and reason. I could always count on her for an honest viewpoint, some words of encouragement and a laugh-out-loud moment.
Her strength and sense of purpose in the face of her illness has taught me so very much. Rachel has helped me to accept life as it comes, with honesty, humor and dignity. Her ability to share this most painful and intimate life experience is another gift to me and many, many others.
Rachel has always and will always inspire me...as a woman, as a friend and as a mom. I send you all my most heartfelt regret for the loss of your wife and mother. At the same time, I envy the roles you played in her life...no doubt it was honor to appear alongside such a star.
Love to you, Rachel. Thank you for including me in your life. As so many others have said, "Peace." Xooo
"Be on your guard! Jerks on the loose!"
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"If any relationship involves a flow chart, get out of it...FAST!"
~ Best12Bars