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justherehanging
#1Going to shows alone
Posted: 4/20/13 at 5:43pm

Hey...I am 37 and I love coming to NYC to see shows, I don't live in the city but I try to come as often as possible.

Would love to make some friends from here and have a love of theater and perhaps we can go together.

I am here currently and have a wonderful time, but be nice to share that with someone or a group.

Anyhow since nice guy here just like to find someone to share a love of theater

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#2Going to shows alone
Posted: 4/20/13 at 6:21pm

I just want to say, good for you for going on your own. Before I was in a relationship, I went to shows all the time by myself, and people always made fun of me for it...but good for you!


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#2Going to shows alone
Posted: 4/20/13 at 6:24pm

I'm not sure people who mock you for not having a date are really "friends".

Good for you both for attending alone when a companion is not available.

bryan
#3Going to shows alone
Posted: 4/20/13 at 6:34pm

i live in portland, maine and i just last night want to see hair all by myself and it was great but i would have being great if i did go with someone but i want by myself

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Jordan Catalano
#4Going to shows alone
Posted: 4/20/13 at 6:36pm

I saw a play by myself this afternoon.

How was HAIR, Bryan?

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dramamama611
#5Going to shows alone
Posted: 4/20/13 at 6:38pm

I go by myself all the time. I love it, I find it very peaceful.


I also enjoy going with friends and family, but our free time and family obligations don't always match up.



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If we're not having fun, then why are we doing it? These are DISCUSSION boards, not mutual admiration boards. Discussion only occurs when we are willing to hear what others are thinking, regardless of whether it is alignment to our own thoughts.
Updated On: 4/20/13 at 06:38 PM

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#6Going to shows alone
Posted: 4/20/13 at 6:40pm

^^^ Dmama, how much do you charge to spend time with your friends? Is that "fee time" legal in your city?

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NewYorkTheater
#7Going to shows alone
Posted: 4/20/13 at 6:40pm

What play did you see Jordan?

jeffmiele
#8Going to shows alone
Posted: 4/20/13 at 6:42pm

I agree dramamama, I typically go with my girlfriend or one of my good friends but I really enjoy going by myself. Seeing Macbeth tonight and its nice to just be on my own, read for my thesis, and just take a break from everyone

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ClumsyDude15
#9Going to shows alone
Posted: 4/20/13 at 6:44pm

I go to a lot of shows by myself, and it's pretty enjoyable. Sure, it's great to have a friend there to chat at intermission or before the show, among other things, but going by yourself is nice, too.


"Anybody that goes to the theater, I think we’re all misfits, so we ended up on stage or in the audience.” --- Patti LuPone.

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dramamama611
#10Going to shows alone
Posted: 4/20/13 at 6:46pm

Gaveston -- yes, charging my friends can be a hassle, but it's worth it. However, one bounced check and I'm a cash only companion!

Going to shows alone


If we're not having fun, then why are we doing it? These are DISCUSSION boards, not mutual admiration boards. Discussion only occurs when we are willing to hear what others are thinking, regardless of whether it is alignment to our own thoughts.

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GavestonPS
#11Going to shows alone
Posted: 4/20/13 at 6:48pm

^^^^Thanks for the warning. I don't want to end up on the "no checks accepted" list!

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ljay889
#12Going to shows alone
Posted: 4/20/13 at 6:50pm

It took me a while to get used to going alone. I'm still not crazy about it, but if it's something that I can't miss (like PASSION) - then I have no problem going by myself.

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NewYorkTheater
#13Going to shows alone
Posted: 4/20/13 at 6:50pm

I find it a dilemma to invite somebody to a show when I suspect it's going to be bad. Not everybody is like the people on this board, committed to theatergoing and open to being disappointed.

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bwayphreak234
#14Going to shows alone
Posted: 4/20/13 at 6:56pm

I honestly love going to shows alone. It is relaxing and peaceful.


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#15Going to shows alone
Posted: 4/20/13 at 6:58pm

It sounds bad but I don't like to go to shows alone in my area in case someone sees me alone, lol. But in terms of the actual experience - going to shows alone can be enjoyable. You don't have to worry about the person enjoying the show, annoying you and it's often easier to find good single seats than two seats.


"You can't overrate Bernadette Peters. She is such a genius. There's a moment in "Too Many Mornings" and Bernadette doing 'I wore green the last time' - It's a voice that is just already given up - it is so sorrowful. Tragic. You can see from that moment the show is going to be headed into such dark territory and it hinges on this tiny throwaway moment of the voice." - Ben Brantley (2022) "Bernadette's whole, stunning performance [as Rose in Gypsy] galvanized the actors capable of letting loose with her. Bernadette's Rose did take its rightful place, but too late, and unseen by too many who should have seen it" Arthur Laurents (2009) "Sondheim's own favorite star performances? [Bernadette] Peters in ''Sunday in the Park,'' Lansbury in ''Sweeney Todd'' and ''obviously, Ethel was thrilling in 'Gypsy.'' Nytimes, 2000

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DAME
#16Going to shows alone
Posted: 4/20/13 at 7:01pm

I love going on my own


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BroadwayFan12
#17Going to shows alone
Posted: 4/20/13 at 7:23pm

Sometimes I prefer to go to shows alone.

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losttheatre12
#18Going to shows alone
Posted: 4/20/13 at 7:27pm

Back when I was in college and single, I would go see shows all the time by myself and it did get old not having anyone to chat with during intermission about how we were liking the performance so far, and then afterwards what we had thought about it as a whole. The "high", so to speak, that really awesome musicals would leave me on just kinda fell flat when I went home after a show with no one to go on and on about it with.

I've been with my partner for 3 years now and he had no theatre experience whatsoever before we started dating. Now, we have thoughtful discussions about what we love and what we just don't give a sh!t about when going to see shows, and it's awesome. It makes me feel good that I've been able to pass on my love of theatre to someone who otherwise would never have experienced it.

There are some shows that just don't appeal to him, that do to me, that I go see alone every once in a while and it's a nice break to fully enjoy it or to criticize it internally without annoying him about how critical I can be as a theatregoer!

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dramamama611
#19Going to shows alone
Posted: 4/20/13 at 7:29pm

I guess I never stopped to think about what anyone else thought. I don't go to theater for them, but for myself and I'll damned if I won't attend because it doesn't fit into anyone else's schedule.

When I'm in the city, I don't even mind dining alone. I bring a book and relax and enjoy.


If we're not having fun, then why are we doing it? These are DISCUSSION boards, not mutual admiration boards. Discussion only occurs when we are willing to hear what others are thinking, regardless of whether it is alignment to our own thoughts.

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denali.fire
#20Going to shows alone
Posted: 4/20/13 at 7:33pm

I love going alone as well. Can get some great last minute seats for a single using discount print out. I become more focused, less distracted and can allow my gut to feel the emotions that are going inside me.

The whole commute to the theater the time in the theater/times square area...well it all stirs my spirit.

Yep, i love theater. My biggest flaw is that i dont do much off-bdwy..


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kadu335
#21Going to shows alone
Posted: 4/20/13 at 7:34pm

I travel alone most of the times I'm in NYC so I end up all by myself when I go to the theater there. I didn't like it at first but I'm pretty used to it now. The only bad thing is not having someone to discuss the show after!






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#22Going to shows alone
Posted: 4/20/13 at 7:38pm

I go to shows alone all the time. I prefer it! I think I would probably feel uncomfortable in theaters outside of NYC, though.


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justherehanging
#23Going to shows alone
Posted: 4/20/13 at 7:39pm

Please don't get me wrong. I love theater. The magic and how I feel the emotion. I just wish I had someone to go with. Help on hotel costs or hang out afterwards with

I go to the shows because I feel moved and inspired. I will continue to go alone but be nice to go with someone

Seeing pippin tonight

beaemma
#24Going to shows alone
Posted: 4/20/13 at 7:42pm

I'm dismayed by people who are anxious to see a show and then miss it just because they couldn't find anyone to go with them. Afterward, they'll moan about not seeing something just because no one would join them. It's nice to be able to discuss the performance with someone, but I would never let the absence of that keep me from seeing a show. Actually, I attend New York shows alone much more often than with someone, and have done so for decades. Anyone who thinks it's odd to see me there without a companion is the one with the problem, not me.


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