Barrett Wilbert Weed from Mean Girls stage door incident

Not sure if anyone saw it or it was discussed here and I missed but on her Instagram story she had some issues with a man waiting with a ton of stuff for her to sign and being an overall creep, apparently not the first time, and then some girl ran up and hugged her.

Since this man has done this a few times now I was curious if theatres would ever supply some sort of security to make sure she got home safely. She shouldn't need to do this obviously but it would certainly beat the alternative of this creep trying to corner her in the future

The only thing I disagreed with is that it painted stage dooring into one gigantic horrible experience for everyone involved. Don't get me wrong some people absolutely shouldn't be allowed to stage door with how they behave and some of the stories I've read on here but all my experiences have been nothing but excellent. I never once thought I had scared anyone like she mentions that when she was a younger kid she could tell the actors were scared of her friends.

I've only stage doored a bunch of times but it's always been a quick I really enjoyed the show, a signed playbill and a quick picture if they were doing such a thing. The only time I ever skipped stage dooring when I wanted to was when I saw the first show of Lazarus after Bowie had passed away because it just didn't seem appropriate to bother Michael C Hall for an autograph that night and even more so because I've met him a few times after each of his Broadway shows and he's always been absolutely wonderful. Figured I'd just bring it with me after his next show here and get it signed since he's my favorite actor.

I know this topic has been sorta beaten to death but I think there's nothing wrong with actors skipping stage dooring if they aren't comfortable with it and at the same time there's nothing wrong with it if people are respectful and respect boundaries that should be obvious.

Updated On: 3/7/20 at 10:02 AM

I'm fully on her side except where she said "women don't get to have boundaries." This isn't a gender issue at all. It could have easily happened to a man and probably does very often. She should have said "actors don't get to have boundaries," which is absolutely true. Please don't stage door, people. Even if you think you're being polite about it, it's still a disgusting, reprehensible practice of objectification derived from literal stalking. I've never understood what people get out of it.

Jordan Catalano said: "Remember when everyone hated her for being on Cameo and now they love her again?

Good times. "

What's that story all about? I don't know much about her, I just came across people talking about what had happened and what she said about this. 

hork said: "I'm fully on her side except where she said "women don't get to have boundaries." This isn't a gender issue at all. It could have easily happened to a man and probably does very often. She should have said "actors don't get to have boundaries," which is absolutely true."

Exactly, a great example that came to mind was what happened to Ethan Slater in 2018

hork said: "I'm fully on her side except where she said "women don't get to have boundaries." This isn't a gender issue at all. It could have easily happened to a man and probably does very often. She should have said "actors don't get to have boundaries," which is absolutely true. Please don't stage door, people. Even if you think you're being polite about it, it's still a disgusting, reprehensible practice of objectification derived from literal stalking. I've never understood what people get out of it."

Y’all are acting like the actors are forced to stage door. Some of them LOVE coming out and meeting their fans and having conversations. Just because you don’t understand it doesn’t mean other people shouldn’t go to the stage door. 
Barrett is absolutely in the right for being disgusted and furious. I would be too; what those people did to her is disgusting. However, painting fans as villains because they want to meet people they look up to, is wrong of her. She should speak for her experience and ONLY hers. 

While men are subject to the same craziness of fans, I think that if a man said "not right now" people may more likely hold back and not think anything of it, but if a woman said the same thing it comes off as unexpected and rude, and would more likely get called names. 

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What happened to Barrett is distasteful at the very least, and we have forgotten our public manners. And if she doesn’t want to do the stage door thing, that’s her prerogative. However, whenever the stage door issue comes up, especially after seeing some of these comments in this thread, I think of These comments from Michelle Visage (3:50)

granted it’s different for broadway doing 8 shows a week but the principal still stands 

copathetiic said: "Wait, I missed something. What happens to Ethan Slater?"

Crazy stalker followed him on the train to where he lives, among other toxic things. If you look up "SpongeBob stalker slater", you will find some boards talking about it

It's hell to be an introvert in this world of extraverts.

That's awful, I'm so glad they are not stage dooring right now, people need to stop with the entitlement and thinking it's part of a price of purchasing a ticket. 

Irv Kupcinet (Kup’s Show, in Chicago) Yes, but Betty you do belong to the public.

 

Lauren Bacall: No we don’t belong to the public. Why do you think we belong to the public?

 

Kup: Well, your name is in the press and your publicity depends...

 

Lauren Bacall: But that has nothing to do with my private life. My private life belongs to me. When I decided to be an actress, I did not sign a piece of paper relinquishing my rights to privacy. When people follow me down the street or see where I live, I mean I think that’s disgusting and it’s a very prevalent problem we have.

 

-1984