Posted: 4/17/21 at 3:17pm
SouthernCakes said: "question about the pronouns: it’s listed as she/they, so in writing you wouldn’t put “hers” you’d put “they?” But you’d write “she said” and not “they said?” Just trying to understand it grammatically"
Again, I can't speak for anyone specifically, but based on my experiences being friends with people who use multiple pronouns:
Basically, when you refer to Karen, you can choose whether or not to use "she/her" or "they/them." Some might say "great, I'm more used to using she/her so I'll just keep doing that," but it's worth mentioning that making the active choice to use both pronouns is a powerful way of recognizing, validating, an respecting someone's complex identity.
As for sentence structure, you could either choose to say "she said" or "they said," and in a different sentence, you may choose between "this belongs to her" or "this belongs to them." (One thing to be careful of is the reflexive pronoun: some people accidentally say "themselves" out of habit - but everybody only has 1 self, so for a non-binary person it would be "themself" - autocorrect might not like it, but language evolves and that's what's correct in this day and age!)
When people list their pronouns, they will often pick one form of each pronoun simple for convenience. They might say "she/they" but that's just an abbreviated way of saying "she/her/hers + they/them/theirs" -
