NY Daily News: Ruthie Ann Miles Injured, Daughter Killed By Driver in Brooklyn — Page 8

My last post literally criticised my own actions and spoke positively about religion as a coping mechanism. You can’t win on here, can you?

Updated On: 5/19/18 at 04:13 AM

You keep making it about me when I agree it shouldn't be. I was defending the poster that says praying won't do anything because it's true. I agree with others that would think this is probably not the time or place to discuss (although clearly I don’t mind talking about this). I agree that religion can even have positive outcomes for this specific situation (just to make it clear I have balanced views). And I agree (as I have said in almost every post) that this is a terrible tragedy for all involved. What else can I possibly say or do? Why bother persisting to derail the conversation further? What do you want? I feel like everything that needs to be said on the topic has been said - now it's just this odd situation where some of you seem to have an issue that the conversation about this is continuing when you are responding to me haha. If you don't want the conversation to continue about this, I genuinely invite you to ignore me or block me. If you reply to me, I will assume you want to continue the discussion because it's a discussion board.

Updated On: 5/19/18 at 06:20 AM

I hope we can continue the great progress we have made over the last few hundred years and slowly change our culture to overcome these strange, outdated and counterfactual ideas.It's 2018 and yet we hold religious views in such high esteem.

You are right. You have apologized and your offense was common enough. Disputes about religion and the effectiveness of petitioning God or gods have been going on for several thousand years, and they cause such high emotions that society has tried to codify some rules for when the subject should not be brought up. After many years, I gave up on prayer. It wasn't working for me. But I respect those who pray and believe that some prayers are answered by some entity and that prayer is at least a comfort to them.

But I couldn't get past that statement above. Since I see the world in a hopeless rather than hopeful state, I'm eager to learn about all this progress that has been made. The two World Wars of the first half of the 20th Century were the most brutal and barbaric in world history. No one really know why WW I was fought. There was peace and prosperity for most. For four years the war in the West followed the same strategy for both sides. Concentrate men on the line, leap from your trenches, and charge entrenched machine guns, which mowed the men down.

The Great War or The War to End All Wars, led directly to WW II after a short period of vindictive peace. In this war for the first time innocent civilians were considered fair game. Millions suffered horrible deaths from poison gas, high explosives, fire and unescapable firestorms, large doses of radiation, firing squads and especially the case with the Japanese, a bayonet in the gut. The two biggest villains could have been religious, but they were not. They cared about religion only as a method of controlling their population.

This country for the first time in its proud history as a Constitutional Democracy elected as President a man not fit for the job. Atomic bomb technology is over 75 years old and bombs can be made or bought with increasing ease. So I see mushroom clouds over cities again by the end of the century.

Now I have to apologize because this was not the right place for this post either. Since I typed it all out, I'm going to post it anyway and you can just ignore it.

Hi all, I hope your Saturday is going well. I think at this point it's probably best if we keep the religious debate out of this thread moving forward. If you would like to have that discussion, I welcome you to start a thread in the Off-Topic board. That topic is understandably personal and can cause significant disagreement, so I am confident that we can all agree that out of respect for Miles and her family, that it might be better to have that conversation elsewhere.

This is obviously a tragic story, so if you would like to share your thoughts, well wishes, concerns, fond memories, and even prayers-- if you are so inclined-- for Ruthie Ann and her family, as well as the Lew family, please continue to do so here.

Thank you all, and have a great weekend.

It's not my place to judge how someone chooses to grieve and work through their grief, but I do hope Miles is doing what's best for her and her husband by continuing with the show. I also wonder how the two actresses will share the role, since that isn't explained in the article. Was Miles going to start after the show opened, since she was going to have just given birth, or are they just alternating?

Wishing Ruthie all the best!

Also, am I the only British-TV-nerd who read that article and immediately was thrilled to see "Tosh" as her alternate? :)

When my father passed away unexpectedly in his sleep, I was back at work the next day. My mother who was married to him for 43 years bounced back (albeit slowly) in 3 days. My dad was a man who didn’t tolerate nonsense so that motivated us to move on immediately as he would have. We are very independent people so we know how to refocus quickly but others can’t AND won’t. Everyone copes differently. Some never do.

https://www.broadwayworld.com/article/Ruthie-Ann-Miles-To-Share-The-Role-Of-Lady-Thiang-In-Londons-THE-KING-AND-I-With-Naoko-Mori-20180531

Here's a clickable link.

Talk about towering strength. Ruthie is incredible.

How presumptuous to assume you know best how she should handle these terrible events.

I can only hope that I get chances to see her, after she has come to peace with her losses, in roles that allow her to be give amazing performances like I've enjoyed in the past. And that she's in a situation to do whatever she needs to get to that peace.

Updated On: 5/31/18 at 05:12 PM

Wow Ruthie! What an amazing woman. Man I'm crying just thinking about how strong she is. I wonder if it's an even split for the role.

"Wallowing in sadness isn't healthy."

Nope, you don't get to judge a person, their sadness, or how they deal with tragedies in life. Everyone is different and everyone has been through things, and some are better prepared mentally than others.

Ruthie is stunning and I hope I get to see her in London this summer.

Really? I was simply addressing the poster implying she was possibly short changing her grieving. And that very poster understood my point. Everyone is different but this idea that she shouldn't be ready to return to her life is silly. Does everyone grieve differently? Of course. As well as everyone comes to terms with it differently. But let's face facts: people DO have to get on with their lives and it is only up to THAT person what is right.

And to EllieRose -- who the heck did I judge? Not a single person. I made two extreme comparisions from very dear people in my life recently and then made a simple statement about emotional health. PERIOD.

" people DO have to get on with their lives"

No, they really don't. Just because you said so? Gross. Gross. Gross. Your entire paragraph.

Back on topic, I am SO happy that Ruthie will be in London and people get to experience her brilliance on stage in the West End. How exciting.