When Someone Overflows Onto Your Seat & Ruins The Show? — Page 3

It was more the 'no one' portion of your post that we are not believing.

I'm a yo-yoer and while I have never been FAT FAT, if I don't exercise I put on weight which I do from time to time. But I know I am getting fatter because I am being lazy and make a conscious choice that I just don't care at that particular time. But it really is for no other reason than that I am just too lazy and can't be arsed to workout.

You've been here a year, this is what happens to most threads.

to the OP, I have felt your pain. One of the things I've found that I have a little control over is scents. I don't use colognes or scented detergent because the scents give me a headache which ends up being a catch-22 because there are a lot of people out there over spraying cologne. To try and combat the headaches and smells I bring a small jar of a balm (I bought it at a store in Rockefeller Center). It's like lip balm but you put it under your nose so it blocks out the smell from strong cologne or BO. I think so morticians use vicks to block the smell. It's something that you can do yourself to control your space.

It also seemed that the OP was holding his arm to the other side to also not make that person on his side more uncomfortable by jamming it against his side which unfortunately make him sorer. I have done this so I am out of someone's space as much as I can.

BuddyStarr said: " I bring a small jar of a balm (I bought it at a store in Rockefeller Center). It's like lip balm but you put it under your nose so it blocks out the smell from strong cologne or BO. I think so morticians use vicks to block the smell. It's something that you can do yourself to control your space.


This is such a good tip! I am totally going to get some of this, certainly would come in useful in this city.

"I also read Reddit daily and overall the community is so much kinder over there (but they don’t have the theater info I seek). It’s such a stark difference. Maybe it’s because the mods are so active and the basic “be kind to one another” is enforced, but come on, all. Stick to the topic and stop throwing the table upside down on every little thing."

Good luck with trying to enforce your definition of "nice" or "kind" on everyone else, as well as dictating where the discussion "should" or "should not" go.

newintown said: ""I also read Reddit daily and overall the community is so much kinder over there (but they don’t have the theater info I seek). It’s such a stark difference. Maybe it’s because the mods are so active and the basic “be kind to one another” is enforced, but come on, all. Stick to the topic and stop throwing the table upside down on every little thing."

Good luck with trying to enforce your definition of "nice" or "kind" on everyoneelse, as well as dictating where the discussion "should" or "should not" go."

Thanks!

It sucks because it's very much not the fault of the person beside you that they're large - as everyone's noted, they have to be feeling much worse. But it's also not fair to you. I don't know what to do. Perhaps speak to a house manager in a non blaming way? Like, "It's not their fault but this is the situation and I am unable to enjoy the play, what can be done?" Perhaps they could give you another seat or a ticket to a later show.

Rainah said: "It sucks because it's very much not the fault of the person beside you that they're large- as everyone's noted, they have to be feeling much worse. But it's also not fair to you. I don't know what to do. Perhaps speak to a house manager in a non blaming way? Like, "It's not their fault but this is the situation and I am unable to enjoy the play, what can be done?" Perhaps they could give you another seat or a ticket to a later show."

SOMETIMES, it is their fault, and, SOMETIMES, they don't feel much worse, SOMETIMES, they just don't care. Why do people insist on making blanket statements that couldn't possibly be true all of the time?

BenjaminNicholas2 said: "The same thing happens on airplanes. America has no self-control and everyone is now expected to accept obesity as the new normal. It's not.


And to the fat apologists here: 6% of fat folks can blame genetics. Most of them eat or sit it on. Self-control is tough, but damned if they don't practice any."

Yeah self-control is difficult. Like controlling the urge to allow trolly comments that generalize groups of people as all being the same (but damned if they don't practice any) to drip from one’s fingertips out into the blogosphere.

Updated On: 4/26/18 at 10:59 AM

wolfwriter said: "GeorgeandDot said: "No, because there's nothing to be done about it, so you can either except it or be a huge a-hole and make a scene. There's nothing to be mad about. The person can't lose 20 pounds by curtain. There's nothing to be done. Unless the person smells, I don't really care how close we are. Maybe because I grew up in New York and I'm used to being jammed next to strangers. Either way a little compassion is always good and I often feel like overweight people are one of the last few groups that it's still socially acceptable to openly hold a prejudice against."

First off, the person had an odor, which I stated, but was not mean about. This is not a 20 pound issue. This was a 400 pound person, maybe more, who was with an equally large person. Stop with the "compassion" whine. I didn't insult anyone's weight and I don't really care what anyone looks like. But, when I have to physically hold my left arm across my body with my right arm for an hour and 45 minutes,because there is nowhere to put it down next to me, that's a problem, not to mention I have a painful left bicep strain and this didn't help.

I grew up here, too and I have never had an experience like this. It used to be that people would be self-aware and, as haterobics said, shown fellow audience members some thoughtfulness and purchased an aisle seat. But, the narcissism that has taken over, shielded underthe PC guise of not mentioning something unpleasant is more than distasteful."

wolfwriter, I agree with you completely. The person next to you paid for THEIR seat, not their seat + 1/3 of YOURS. You paid for your whole seat, not 2/3 of it. GeorgeandDot's argument is like saying the family in the apartment next to yours has grown, so they have a right to bust through the shared wall and move their new child into your apartment.

When we saw Anastasia, my husband was seated next to a very large, sweaty man who overflowed considerably into my husband's seat. By intermission, his clothes on his left side were all damp from his neighbor's sweating body being pressed against him for an hour. My husband ended up watching the second act from the SRO area at the back of the theatre. I don't think it's fair that we paid full price for those seats.

No that's not my argument. I'm just saying that the OP shouldn't have let this situation that he had no control over ruin his evening. If the show isn't sold out, ask to move. If it is, I'm sorry that these theatres are trying to cram as many people as possible into these theatres with little regard for human dimensions and then charging you an absurd amount of money for your tickets. There's just nothing to be done and it sucks for you and it sucks for the people around you. Don't be rude about it because you don't know that person and you don't know their situation. The sweating part is ridiculous though, sorry about that.

I'm not out of line about that comment by the way. This person made all kinds of generalizations and nasty comments that suggested that they already had a fat prejudice before even stepping into the theatre. I'm not attacking them, just pointing out an observation that I made from their post.

Tobias, I'm sorry that this has hurt you in some way. Please don't leave. Some people just can't put themselves in the shoes of others.

Updated On: 4/26/18 at 11:44 AM